Dear child, I would assert that being a military child is one of the most challenging roles within our family dynamic. You didn’t choose this lifestyle; your father made the decision to enlist, and I willingly embraced the journey of being his partner, fully aware of the hardships it would bring. Yet, you and your sister had no say in this matter. By mere chance of birth, you both became “military kids,” and you have embraced this identity with a resilience that fills your father and me with immense pride.
From the moment you entered this world, it was a blessing that your father was on shore duty, allowing him to be present during your first year. We spent that time bonding as a family, with your dad often tucking you in and sharing in your joys. But as all military families know, those moments are fleeting. When you were just 14 months old, your father was deployed.
I vividly recall the night before he left, watching him rock you gently while reading “My Sailor Dad.” We were both in tears, unsure of how you would react to his absence. I can still picture the way you clung to him on the boat, crying out “Dada” repeatedly, and my heart ached for you. How could I explain to such a young child why their father had to leave?
The first weeks were tough; I was pregnant with your sister and adjusting to life without your dad. You were understandably more clingy, but you quickly adapted to the new normal. We maintained our connection with your father through FaceTime and United Through Reading, which made a world of difference. You asked daily when he would return, and your excitement during homecoming was unforgettable. Your courage through it all has only deepened our pride in you.
As for your sister, even in her first moments of life, she inherited the reality of having a military father, although she couldn’t comprehend it yet. Your dad managed to be home for her birth, but shortly after, he had to leave for a training exercise, missing those precious first moments. It was heart-wrenching for both of us, but we kept repeating, “It is what it is.”
Before he left, your father wondered if she would ever forgive him for missing out on significant events, not just her birth but all the milestones to come: birthdays, school events, and soccer games—moments that other dads would be there for. I assured him that both of you would understand. Growing up as military kids will not be easy; you will face challenges that will test your strength. Your father’s choice to serve his country will shape your lives in ways we cannot foresee.
But no matter the distance, whether we are together or apart, we are endlessly proud of our military children. If you’re interested in supporting military families in your community, consider exploring United Through Reading or Operation Homefront.
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In summary, being a military child comes with unique challenges and experiences, but the strength and grace shown by children like you and your sister make it all worthwhile. Always remember that your family is proud of you and will support you through every obstacle.