A recent study reveals that nearly 50% of parents who co-sleep are hesitant to admit it. In her book Musical Beds: Parents, Children, and Co-Sleeping, Dr. Emily Richards from the University of Nebraska interviewed 51 parents engaged in this practice and discovered that many chose to keep it a secret from relatives and healthcare providers due to the stigma surrounding it. While this sample size is small, it suggests that many families may feel the pressure to hide their co-sleeping arrangements.
The AAP’s Stance on Co-Sleeping
The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) advises against bed-sharing due to its links to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) and other sleep-related fatalities. However, counterarguments exist, particularly when looking at global practices. For instance, in a piece for the New York Times, Professors James and Linda Park highlight that in countries like Sweden, co-sleeping is the norm, yet those nations have low infant mortality rates and SIDS occurrences significantly below that of the U.S.
Cultural Perspectives on Bed-Sharing
The perception that sharing a bed is inherently dangerous isn’t universally accepted. This Western notion of having children sleep alone in their rooms could be perceived as another culturally specific parenting norm—akin to the emphasis on avoiding any alcohol during pregnancy or overly protecting a child’s self-esteem. Dr. Richards emphasizes that American culture often places blame on parents when their children face challenges, resulting in a reluctance to share personal parenting choices.
Stigmas Surrounding Co-Sleeping with Older Children
While the discussion about bed-sharing often centers on infants, those who co-sleep with older children also face social stigmas. Articles like one from The Atlantic link bed-sharing with older kids to issues like a lack of independence, low self-worth, and marital strain. Such negative associations understandably lead parents to shy away from confessing their co-sleeping habits.
Finding Your Family’s Comfort Zone
If co-sleeping doesn’t resonate with you, that’s completely valid; it’s always best to choose what feels right for your family. Conversely, if you support bed-sharing, embrace it without guilt. It’s essential to recognize that sharing a bed with one’s children doesn’t equate to irresponsibility or endangerment. Observing global parenting practices may help foster a more accepting attitude toward the choices of friends and family.
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Conclusion
In summary, co-sleeping remains a contentious topic, with many parents choosing not to disclose their practices due to societal pressures. While research highlights concerns about safety, it’s also crucial to recognize the cultural differences in parenting and the need for understanding.