As the summer approaches, many parents find themselves welcoming their college-aged children back home for an extended stay. While this can be a joyful reunion, it’s essential to establish some ground rules to maintain harmony in the household. After months of independence, everyone’s routines are about to shift — and adjustments will be necessary.
The concept of “boundaries” may feel new and daunting, especially for those of us who have shared close quarters with our spouses and children for years. I first encountered the idea of boundaries while listening to a talk radio show years ago, where the host explained the importance of delineating personal space and responsibilities. It struck me as a novel concept since my husband and I had never practiced it in our own lives; we shared everything from morning coffee to the flu without a second thought.
However, as our children transitioned into young adulthood, they began asserting their independence and establishing their own boundaries. This shift can be disorienting for parents, who might feel overwhelmed by their kids’ newfound assertiveness. Suddenly, our once-cozy family dynamic can feel like a tug-of-war over personal space and privileges.
Guidelines for a Peaceful Coexistence
To foster a peaceful coexistence this summer, I’ve drafted some guidelines that may help:
- If you toss your laundry into my washing machine and it requires me to shift a previous load to the dryer, please fold those clean clothes afterward. I promise to do the same for you, and by the end of summer, I’ll have folded more laundry than anyone else in the house (not that it’s a competition!).
- If you come home to a dark house and find the kitchen empty, I might be out with friends. Feel free to whip up your own meal!
- Should you open the fridge and not find your favorite almond milk or granola, I encourage you to hit the grocery store. You can leave your receipt on the counter — we usually don’t keep those items around.
- Lastly, if my bedroom door is closed, it might mean I’m trying to escape for a moment. If there’s an issue you’d like to discuss, consider sending me a text or an email instead, and I promise to respond thoughtfully.
For fellow parents who find themselves running a summer home that resembles a bed and breakfast (Bed & Boundaries), remember: “If you love something, set it free. If it returns, it’s likely your college student.”
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Summary
As college students return home for the summer, establishing clear boundaries can help create a harmonious living environment. By setting guidelines regarding household responsibilities and personal space, parents can ease the transition and foster a respectful relationship with their young adults.