In a recent reflective moment, I found myself singing a classic tune to my son while we experienced a new chapter in our lives: the addition of a wheelchair lift in our home. This adjustment, slow and deliberate, was the result of extensive collaboration with specialists, including contractors, architects, and physical therapists, alongside countless hours spent organizing our garage—a task that had lingered since our last move four years prior.
This transition was significant, not only for practical reasons but also emotionally. I felt a wave of anxiety wash over me as I confronted the reality of this new apparatus. It symbolized a surrender of sorts, relinquishing my identity as the “mom who can do it all.” As my son grows, he becomes more challenging to carry, reminding me that change is inevitable.
In his early years, I was his constant caretaker during the night and the one who understood his needs when words failed him. Just last year, I could still carry him with ease, but as fatigue began to set in and the stairs seemed more daunting, I recognized a shift was necessary.
The day the lift was finally installed, I stood alongside him, contemplating the implications of this change. Despite my mixed emotions—an attachment to holding him close versus the need for his independence—we took our inaugural ride together. I found myself singing, tears of joy mingled with sorrow, as he independently pressed the button, his laughter filling the space.
This experience ultimately exceeded my expectations, alleviating my apprehensions. I realized that my primary desire as a parent is for him to have the independence to explore his world, a sentiment echoed by many mothers. Although I feel a pang of loss from the absence of his weight against me, I understand that he now has the freedom he deserves.
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In conclusion, while the transition to a more accessible home may evoke bittersweet feelings, it ultimately fosters growth and independence for both parent and child, allowing for new experiences to be shared.