Every evening at 5 PM, I find myself yearning to clock out. I want to grab my bag, shut down my laptop, push in my chair, and make a dash for the exit, eager to escape from work. But here’s the catch: I live where I work. Literally. I. Live. At. Work. because I’m a stay-at-home mom.
It’s been 19 years—yes, 19 long, tiring, rewarding, occasionally frustrating, and never dull years of full-time motherhood. After my first child was born, I left my “real” job behind and never looked back. Instead of pursuing my career, I embraced the far less lucrative role of a full-time mom, and I’ve never regretted it. For my family and me, it was the best decision at the right time.
As more children arrived, going back to work felt impossible due to the high costs of childcare. In fact, we saved money by me staying home. Crazy, right? But then my kids started school, and silence fell over me as I felt the societal pressure to rejoin the workforce. I mean, why not? Daycare expenses were off the table, and I suddenly had my days to fill. What was I supposed to do at home all day, right?
Over the years, I’ve had a few opportunities to work part-time, relishing a role that offered incredible flexibility—sometimes as little as five hours a week. But honestly, the urge to stay home has always been stronger than the pull to return to work. Yet, the questions keep coming: “What do you do all day?” “Are you planning to go back to work?” “How do you manage on a single paycheck?” and my favorite, “Don’t you want to earn a paycheck and contribute to society?”
For years, I didn’t have the courage to respond with, “Why does it matter to you?” But now, I do.
Here’s the Reality
It’s none of their business! Plus, I’m busier than ever as a SAHM—even with all my kids in school. So busy, in fact, that just the thought of juggling a full-time job along with taking care of four kids sends me into a panic. Major kudos to all the working moms out there, seriously!
I’m busy saving money by handling all home-related issues myself—if it’s broken, dirty, or disorganized, I’m the one to tackle it. I’m also busy volunteering at my kids’ schools when working parents can’t, and it’s a privilege I cherish. I actively participate in community events, helping to organize fundraisers and bake sales. Plus, I lend a hand when working moms have childcare hiccups or need extra support.
And yes, I’m also busy cooking, making sure everyone has clean clothes, and shuttling the kids to their appointments and sports practices. Oh, and I take care of all the household tasks my husband can’t handle due to his frequent travel.
Finding Time for Myself
But let’s be real. Sometimes I find myself doing absolutely nothing—just lounging on the couch, binge-watching my favorite shows until the kids come home. And you know what? I refuse to feel guilty about that. I might even indulge in a few days of pure relaxation, and since I’m the boss around here, I don’t get written up for it.
In the end, I’ve earned the freedom to choose how I spend my time. There’s something empowering about being a SAHM who knows she doesn’t owe anyone an explanation about her daily activities. We’re trailblazers in our own right.
And if you can show me a SAHM who clocks out at 5 PM, I’ll gladly tell you what I actually do all day.
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In summary, being a stay-at-home mom is a full-time job in itself, filled with responsibilities that often go unnoticed. From managing household tasks to volunteering and supporting other parents, my days are anything but boring. And yes, I also take time for myself, which I absolutely deserve.