One of the most cherished individuals in my life is only 7 years old. I’ve watched her grow since her time in her mother’s womb, and she affectionately refers to me as her big brother—a title I wear with pride. I take this role seriously, engaging in adventures like zoo trips, ice cream outings, and movie nights, occasionally indulging her in sugary treats before returning her to her parents (who, I’m sure, appreciate this).
Her family holds a special place in my life, and I hope my presence is equally significant in theirs. Over the years, she’s keenly observed my ongoing single status and has taken it upon herself to be my personal love consultant.
Since she was just 4, this little girl has offered me unsolicited yet insightful advice on romance and relationships. Her humorous observations often surpass the questionable guidance provided by my adult friends. While others seek costly advice from life coaches, I simply stroll through the park with this wise child who puts me in my place every time.
Here are some of her most memorable pieces of advice:
- Child: Always apologize.
Me: What if I didn’t do anything wrong?
Child: Hmm. You probably did. Just start with saying sorry; it’ll make things easier—trust me! - Child: Prioritize her over anything else. You’re not dating your job! You’re dating her.
- Child: Look for someone who shares your interests so you can enjoy them together.
- Child: Are you going to marry her?
Me: I’m not sure. Should I?
Child: No! I don’t want her as my sister! She’s mean to you. You shouldn’t love someone who is mean! - Child: You need to find someone to love.
Me: Why?
Child: Because everyone needs somebody!
Me: How do I know whom to love?
Child: Love someone because they’re special, okay?
Me: Okay. - Child: Why don’t you ever have a girlfriend?
Me: Not sure. What do you think?
Child: (looking me over) Maybe because you like Star Wars and they don’t.
Me: So, The Force isn’t strong with them?
Child: (rolls eyes) What am I going to do with you? - Child: You need a girlfriend!
Me: Why?
Child: Because you don’t have one, silly! - Child: I know you’re never getting married, but if you did, I’d have a sister-in-law, right?
Me: Who said I’m not getting married?!
Child: You! Answer my question!
Me: Yes, if I got married, you’d have a sister-in-law.
Child: (groans) But I want a brother-in-law. Can you just marry a boy? - Me: How do I know which emojis to send or what they mean?
Child: Always show them to me; I’ll know. - Child: Are you dating the girl who gave me a cookie?
Me: You mean Amanda?
Child: Yeah, her!
Me: No, she’s just a friend.
Child: You should marry Amanda. She’s nice! Tell her you love her or you’ll miss out!
This child’s wisdom comes out every time we meet, often bringing up Amanda on each visit. While her eagerness to jump to marriage is likely influenced by the delightful cookie she remembers, she has a point—my fears often prevent me from pursuing meaningful connections. When I like someone, I hesitate to express my feelings due to vulnerability and the potential risk to friendships.
Perhaps this 7-year-old is onto something. Maybe I should take more chances—not just in dating, but in all aspects of life. After all, progress often requires a leap of faith.
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Summary
A 7-year-old offers surprisingly profound and humorous advice on love and relationships, often revealing deeper truths that adults overlook. Her insights encourage taking risks in both love and life.