In a recent conversation, a figure in a sterile room turned to me, “I have some questions about your experience. Behind that window is a camera recording everything you say. Just relax and be honest. All your words will be counted as evidence.” My mind raced—who would fabricate such a story?
At the age of 13, I asked for a blanket, feeling the heat of the room intensifying. “Do you have a stuffed animal?” I added sheepishly. Just then, a compassionate advocate named Laura entered with a soft teddy bear and a blanket. She took my hand gently, assuring me, “The hardest part is over. He can’t hurt you anymore. Just hold onto this bear and share your story.”
“Okay,” I replied, snuggling behind a pile of cushions.
“Remember,” Laura said, “No matter what happens, you must know this: We believe you.”
Those three words—“We believe you”—gave me the strength to persevere. Through rigorous questioning and attempts to discredit my character, I remained steadfast. When my abuser was found guilty years later, even as doubts circulated in the media, I held my head high. Because I was surrounded by people who believed in me.
Reflecting on my own journey, I realize how fortunate I was. Growing up in Alabama, a place now embroiled in the controversy surrounding Roy Moore, who has faced allegations of sexual abuse from multiple women, I can empathize with their plight. These brave individuals have come forward, only to be subjected to public scrutiny and condemnation.
As someone who has experienced similar abuse, I find the abusive narrative directed at Moore’s accusers deeply disheartening. As a court-appointed special advocate (CASA), I am aware of the statistics that support these women’s claims. Did you know that 98% of child abuse reports are substantiated? (NSW Child Protection Council, cited in Dympna House 1998). Tragically, while many victims hesitate to disclose their experiences, the majority of them—73%—remain silent for at least a year, with more than half waiting over five years to report their abuse or choosing never to do so at all. (I waited eight years.)
This delay complicates the prosecution of such crimes. It’s no wonder that victims struggle to come forward. Among reported rapes, less than six perpetrators per 1,000 are incarcerated, leaving many to roam free, with some even attaining positions of power.
When someone confides in you about their abuse, the only appropriate response is simple: I. Believe. You. This applies universally—regardless of who the accused might be, whether a close friend, a trusted figure, or a public figure. What should concern us more than the reputation of someone we admire is the reality of child abuse itself.
I refuse to engage with those who dismiss or ridicule these brave survivors who share their truths. We have the evidence indicating that most victims who come forward are indeed telling the truth. Many more remain silent, terrified of the backlash. We can support those who speak out while still upholding the principle of justice for all involved.
Think about this: it may seem distant now, but it could be your child seeking help tomorrow. How would you want others to respond? I hope for someone like Laura, who would hold my child’s hand and confidently say, “I believe you.”
That’s how we should respond—unwavering in our support. Let’s say it together: We believe you. To the accusers of Roy Moore: We believe you. To those whose stories remain unspoken: We believe you.
The statistics are alarming. Children are suffering abuse, often waiting years to disclose their pain. When they finally do, they should not be met with shame or disbelief. Instead, I will be the one offering them a lifeline. I affirm their experiences and stand in solidarity with them. I urge you to join me in this commitment.
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Summary
This piece emphasizes the importance of believing survivors of abuse, particularly in light of recent allegations against Roy Moore. It discusses the challenges victims face in coming forward, backed by statistics that reveal the prevalence of unreported abuse. The author advocates for a supportive response to those who disclose their experiences, urging society to stand with survivors rather than perpetuate silence and shame.