Dear Little One,
I refer to you as “little one” because, no matter how much you grow, you will always be the cherished child I brought home from the hospital—screaming for nourishment. You were the baby I held close, the one your father teased me about hogging simply because I craved your closeness. Even in your tiniest, most potato-like form, you were adorable, and you will forever hold that place in my heart.
Why is this significant? Because I am your mother. Always remember this vital truth: I endured two arduous days of labor and brought forth a being the size of a watermelon from parts of me that, while flexible, are not as stretchy as one might think. The experience was painful—I even required an hour of stitching afterward, but I was blissfully unaware of it all because I was captivated by you. Let go of any guilt about that pain; instead, recognize every woman around the world who has gone through something similar and treat her as if she had carried you. You owe me nothing; you owe kindness to the universe.
I use strong language now and then, remnants of my younger days, but I urge you to avoid some of my past mistakes. I wasted time chasing fleeting romances in college instead of focusing on my studies, drinking too much, and engaging in other unwise activities. Such distractions lose their charm quickly; they are not worth your time, especially when you could be learning—after all, that’s what you’re investing in, and you’ll need to repay those student loans.
Don’t feel pressured to conform. Sometimes, it’s okay to bend the rules. Steal road cones with friends or enjoy cheap beer while hiding from authority figures. Organize wild costume parties and make friends from diverse backgrounds. Connect with exchange students, savor their traditional cuisines, and absorb their stories. Embrace the world around you while you’re young, so you won’t struggle with profound issues later in life.
Develop your political beliefs based on your experiences and observations. Stand firm in your convictions. Always protect the vulnerable, support the marginalized, and lend a hand to those in need. I encourage you to share your resources, even if others question your generosity. I’ve always admired individuals who, after listening to someone’s story, choose to offer help discreetly. These qualities attract the best in people.
Never overlook those often forgotten. Know your janitor’s name and their children’s names. Greet the groundskeepers, store clerks, and waitstaff, treating them with the respect they deserve. Generosity in tipping is essential—remember, every time you drop something on the ground or misplace items, someone else will clean up after you. Your upbringing has instilled in you a sense of responsibility; don’t make more work for those who already have enough.
As for pets, don’t take on the responsibility of a dog until you are truly ready. Your learning curve will be steep, and training your dog will prepare you for future parenting. Make sure to socialize your pup, as they will likely be a part of your life when you welcome your own child into the world—another little one who may also squall like you did.
When that moment comes, your partner will be there, perhaps feeding the baby while the dog curiously sniffs around. You’ll find yourself offering them drinks and snacks, reflecting the kindness you owe the universe.
You emerged from love, pain, and a connection that is indescribable, just as your child will. In honor of those sacrifices, it’s crucial to be kind to one another.
Above all, my dear, always remember: kindness is paramount.
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In summary, embrace kindness, cherish your relationships, and approach life with the love you’ve been given.