By: Emma Parker
As a mom, the desire to take a break can feel overwhelming. I originally planned to write a post titled “Mommy Needs a Break” while I was nearing the end of my pregnancy with my second son, who is now six months old. Exhaustion took over, and I barely managed to draft the title before succumbing to sleep beside my computer.
Upon revisiting my drafts, it struck me how many mothers share this sentiment. After our three-year-old throws a tantrum over something as trivial as a blue cup instead of a red one, how often do we sigh and think, “I really need a break before I lose it”?
Yet, in the realm of parenting, true breaks are elusive. I don’t consider putting the kids to bed a half-hour early to catch a glimpse of my favorite show, or dropping them off at grandma’s for a dinner date with my partner, a real break. That nagging voice in my head always reminds me of my responsibilities, like the laundry that needs folding or the tax documents I still need to gather.
When I envision a break, I think of a complete escape—somewhere I can forget about laundry, meals, or the never-ending cycle of diaper changes and midnight accidents. I long for the freedom of not having to let the dog out for the umpteenth time.
Let me clarify: I adore my children more than anything, and I would do anything for them. Yet, I feel the need to include that disclaimer because, unfortunately, judgment is common.
I recall the time my husband and I enjoyed our first real break after our first child was born. We arrived at our hotel room, and in utter bliss, we simply laid on the bed in complete silence. That moment of peace was enchanting. However, it’s been far too long since we’ve had a kid-free getaway. Our family vacations are wonderful but come with the added responsibility of caring for our children.
Don’t get me wrong; I cherish my time with my kids, but I can’t remember the last time I lounged by the pool with a book in hand, free from the watchful eye of a baby monitor. The constant worry about whether my children are doing well with the sitter adds to my stress.
Is this a universal experience for parents? I hope I’m not alone in feeling this way. For a week, I want to wake up without the worry of a crying child. I want to indulge in long showers, enjoy quiet moments, and watch TV without interruptions. I want meals free from tiny hands snatching food off my plate, and I don’t want to do any laundry or change any diapers.
I yearn for uninterrupted conversations with my husband, without our little ones demanding attention with questions about their toys—Captain America’s action figure is often right under their noses!
Wanting a break doesn’t make me selfish. Everyone deserves time off to recharge. If I want to be the best parent possible, I need to prioritize self-care.
In 2023, I’ve resolved to take a break with my husband, to relax and reconnect. I’ll take long showers, read a book, and enjoy a meal without a high chair in sight. Sure, I’ll miss those chubby little fingers and snotty noses after a short while, but I know it will be worth it. After all, I dedicate my life to raising these little humans, and sometimes a little time off is essential. Absence, after all, makes the heart grow fonder.
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Summary
Taking a break as a parent can feel nearly impossible amidst the constant responsibilities of caring for children. Although the love for one’s kids is paramount, the need for personal time is essential for maintaining mental health and becoming a better parent. Prioritizing breaks can help recharge and rejuvenate, allowing parents to return to their roles with renewed energy.