To the gentleman who took it upon himself to judge the state of my disordered vehicle: I assure you, you would never allow your own car to look or smell like this. Nor would you permit your spouse to neglect a family vehicle so thoroughly.
Shame on me, right? Apparently, I am as offensive as my van for prioritizing the well-being of the living, breathing children in my care over the cleanliness of my transportation.
Well, you know what? You may call me a jackanape, which is just a child-friendly alternative to a harsher term I could use, but I won’t because my little ones are nearby. The truth is, this “mom-mobile” is in its current state because no one else is eager to drive my kids around. When they do find themselves in someone else’s car, it’s usually due to my bribing that person with cash or my undying affection. Strangely enough, when they’re with others, my kids appear well-fed and content because I have met their endless needs before we depart.
When they’re back in my care, they arrive home frazzled from school, indulging in stress-eating due to anxiety about after-school events. They are often emotional from the day’s social interactions, and happy to be back with their one and only mother. And guess what happens next?
Exhausted, hungry, over-stimulated young children do what they do best in a vehicle: they create a complete disaster. They turn the van into a chaotic scene, scattering food, markers, papers, hair ties, remnants of yesterday’s cookies, and even that band-aid they just tore off — all covered in an assortment of grime.
While you may view my messy vehicle as evidence of lazy parenting, I can assure you that my approach to motherhood is anything but idle. Driving my kids around, whether to Timbuktu or back, is not a sign of neglect. It’s not me being indifferent that prevents me from taking my car for a wash; it’s the judgmental glares I already endure from you and other parents during drop-off. I certainly don’t need to invite more disdain from the young men at the local Wash & Shine.
You criticize me? I say the shame belongs to you. Shame on you, my partner, for not taking the kids out more often. Oh, you have a job? Then shame on you for passing judgment on how I manage my work and maintain my vehicle, which is a reflection of my utter exhaustion, confusion, and depletion.
This messy van is not a sign of apathy but a symbol of the chaos of motherhood. So, in the future, perhaps you could refer to the family car as “a reflection of love,” which is a much more accurate description of its state.
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In summary, the state of my van is not a reflection of my parenting skills but rather the reality of managing a busy household. It’s a chaotic reminder that love and care sometimes come with a bit of mess.