Motherhood is a journey that feels instinctive for some, while others find themselves navigating it with uncertainty. For those who resonate with the latter, here are ten signs that you might not have been born with that innate motherly instinct.
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No Interest in Holding Other People’s Babies
While infants may be adorable, you find little motivation to hold someone else’s child. You have your own little one to care for, and that’s quite enough. -
Inattentiveness to Other Children
You often overlook the children around you, even your own. While visiting friends, you might not engage with the kids playing nearby, preferring to focus on adult conversations, even if they are few and far between. -
Delayed Responses to Your Child’s Calls
It’s not uncommon for your children to call your name multiple times before it truly registers. A sign that you may be a tad preoccupied with other thoughts. -
Difficulty Distinguishing Between Adults and Children
Your expectations for children mirror those you have for adults. You might find yourself frustrated, thinking, “Just get dressed!” or “Why can’t you read this word?” -
Unlikely Friendships with Your Own Kids
If your kids were peers, you might not choose to associate with them—who wants to hang out with someone who throws tantrums over snacks? Thankfully, their cuteness and affection often change the dynamics. -
Value of Alone Time
Even the most natural mothers can agree that bathroom breaks are a sanctuary. Yet, the thought of leaving your kids unattended can be nerve-wracking. -
Discomfort with Noise and Mess
Crying, loud noises, and chaos are not exactly your cup of tea, which can make parenting feel overwhelming. -
Intentional Engagement
Every storytime, teaching moment, or play session requires conscious effort on your part. You actively decide to engage with your kids rather than it feeling spontaneous. -
Reluctance to Babysit
You have always avoided babysitting and are particularly hesitant about caring for kids older or of different genders than your own. The unpredictability can be daunting. -
Deep Affection for Your Children
Despite any struggles with parenting, the love you have for your children is profound. You worry about your parenting abilities and hope for the best outcomes for them. Their joy, hugs, and smiles are what truly matters.
Can any of these resonate with your experience? Share your own moments of feeling ‘unnatural’ in motherhood; remember that you’re doing a remarkable job! For more insights related to motherhood, check out this article from our blog.
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In summary, not everyone finds motherhood to be a seamless journey. Many face challenges and moments of self-doubt, but the love for their children remains unwavering. Embrace your unique path and know that you’re not alone.