Dear Hockey Mom,
I was the one who stepped out of the warm room while you were on your #8 rant. I heard every word you unleashed, and it left me both appalled and outraged. Honestly, I had to distance myself because I couldn’t bear to hear another second of your disrespectful comments. Yes, #8 is my daughter.
There are things you don’t know about this remarkable young lady, #8, whom you so carelessly criticized in the warm room. She’s just 14—a child still navigating the complexities of life. Although she plays hockey with intensity and carries herself like a young woman, she is still an 8th grader, with all the accompanying innocence and dreams. She has a brother and sister, and her parents are divorced, which means she often shifts between homes, stepping into a caregiver role for her siblings. This is often the reality for the oldest child in a divorced family. At just 14, she is filled with potential and hope.
#8 has faced significant challenges in her young life. The specifics are private, but believe me, she has had to mature far too quickly and has served as a mother figure for her siblings for many years. Her childhood has been marked by anxiety and fear, and she learned early on to mask her struggles to avoid adding to her family’s burdens. On the ice, she may seem tough, but emotionally, she has an incredible resilience.
Fortunately, #8 has discovered a sanctuary in her life—the ice rink. It’s a place where she feels secure, confident, and completely at home. Hockey is where she can shed all her worries for just an hour. When she laces up her skates, she transforms from the girl who spends her time looking after everyone else into simply Molly, a girl doing what she loves without the weight of the world on her shoulders. For that brief period, she gets to be a normal kid, enjoying a game and having the time of her life.
I understand that you wanted your daughter’s team to win this morning and that you felt my daughter was playing too aggressively. However, I cannot comprehend how, as a 45-year-old woman, you thought it was appropriate to openly disparage a 14-year-old girl in front of a crowd. She is just trying to pursue her passion.
I urge you to recognize that behind every helmet on that ice lies a unique story filled with challenges you may not understand. There are experiences that come with pain, and each child has their own battles. As parents, we should exemplify integrity, respect, and healthy competition. It is our responsibility to create a supportive and enjoyable environment for our children. Remember, you never know what struggles another child is facing. Let’s choose kindness and refrain from judgment.
As a fellow adult and mother, I ask you to keep my daughter out of your harsh words. She has enough on her plate already.
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In conclusion, let’s foster a community of support and understanding for our children. They deserve that.