As a parent, I have a confession: my sons enjoy first-person shooter games. It’s a topic that stirs a mix of emotions in me. I am an advocate for gun control and have often viewed gun-related play with skepticism. I once stood aghast at children playing with water guns at the park and found myself disapproving when a child transformed a balloon sword into a balloon gun. A wise grandmother once told me, “I didn’t let my son play with guns, and now he’s a cop.” That moment shifted my perspective, and I found myself giving my then three-year-old a balloon sword that could also be a gun.
Fast forward twelve years, and my parenting style has adapted to include Nerf guns and video games. While I haven’t actively encouraged gun play or gaming, I also haven’t discouraged them, provided they aren’t causing harm to each other. My sons, aged 15 and 10, have the freedom to enjoy their toy weaponry and video games, similar to how they play with bikes and sports equipment. It’s important to note that I restrict them to games rated “E 10+” or “Teen,” avoiding intense violence, blood, sexual content, and strong language.
The graphics in video games have developed from pixelated graphics to hyper-realistic representations of weaponry. Admittedly, my sons can name a wide array of guns and ammunition, which is a bit unsettling—but I suppose they are learning something. We belong to a charter school community that generally discourages electronic media, yet I know other families who have varying degrees of leniency with video games. Even Minecraft, once a favorite, is considered too violent by some.
I find the allure of these games understandable; they provide a competitive and immersive experience, allowing kids to connect socially, especially during their teenage years. Being part of a virtual team can be exhilarating, even if it involves simulated violence. I often watch them play, feeling torn. On one hand, I’m a peace-loving mom who opposes the NRA; on the other, I see my kids engaged in combat scenarios on screen. Should I unplug the console, delete the games, or restrict their options to family-friendly titles like Wii Sports or Dance Dance Revolution?
Given their established engagement with these games, I would be hypocritical to suddenly impose strict limits. They are, after all, part of a larger gaming community, and I recognize that their enjoyment is not unusual. Ultimately, I know my children well. They are kind, thoughtful, and responsible, maintaining good grades and engaging in chores, sports, and outdoor play. It seems they can compartmentalize their gaming experiences, managing their time and interactions responsibly.
Am I simply easing my parental guilt by allowing them this freedom? Perhaps. But I’ve communicated my concerns about real-life gun violence, and they acknowledge the difference between the virtual world and reality. They assure me they understand it’s not real, and while I worry, I also trust them. I maintain vigilance, enforce time limits, and engage with them in various activities, from puzzles to cooking and even building in Minecraft.
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In summary, while my sons play games that some may deem violent, I believe they are navigating these experiences safely and responsibly. As parents, we often find ourselves in complex situations, balancing our values with our children’s interests. It’s essential to engage in open conversations and foster understanding, ensuring they grow into empathetic individuals.