There are numerous challenges that come with the choice of being a working mother. From the disapproving glances and unsolicited remarks from others questioning your dedication to your children, to the exhaustion that leaves you feeling frazzled when you return to the workplace. You also have to deal with the cumbersome breast pump and all the associated gear that require constant cleaning. And then there’s the overwhelming guilt that weighs heavily on your heart.
As your little ones transition from infants to toddlers, the reality hits hard. You might miss those precious milestones like their first smile, the first word, or the first steps. Later, you may find it difficult to attend school performances or special events, such as Mother’s Day celebrations. Balancing the roles of a committed professional and a nurturing mother often leaves someone feeling let down—and that someone is typically you.
However, one of the most heart-wrenching experiences is when your child falls ill. In those moments, they yearn for their mother, yet you find yourself at work while someone else comforts them. Whether it’s a babysitter, teacher, or family member, they are the ones holding your sick child, while you sit anxiously at your desk, constantly checking your phone for any updates or reassuring photos.
The guilt I felt when I left for work last night was more profound than ever. My heart ached as our caretaker took my little one, who was crying and pleading to come with me. Our youngest was running a high fever, which is particularly concerning due to her history with febrile seizures. She wanted nothing more than to be held, and as she napped for almost four hours, her tiny body fought off the illness. When it was time for me to go, her lips quivered as she sweetly asked, “Can I please come with you?”
In those painful moments, I often contemplate quitting to focus solely on motherhood. Yet, I know that being a stay-at-home mom is not as simple as it seems—I’ve experienced that challenge myself, and it was far from easy. For me, this is the most difficult aspect of being a working mother, and it seems to become more challenging with each passing year.
Working in a freelance capacity has its benefits. I can be home more often than with a traditional 9-5 job and can schedule my work during school hours. Unfortunately, there are times when the workload is overwhelming and must be accepted, regardless of my children’s needs. It always seems to happen when they need me the most.
I want to extend my sincerest apologies to the mothers I previously worked with after college, who arrived late due to their sick children. I admit I silently judged them; they seemed exhausted, missed deadlines, and sometimes made my tasks more difficult. However, I now understand the struggles they faced at home, and they deserve my utmost respect.
The term “working mother” feels redundant because our children are always on our minds, no matter where we are. Tomorrow, my focus will shift back to work, but today I will cherish every moment spent with my child. For further insights on parenthood, you might find this other blog post helpful here. Additionally, if you’re looking for authoritative resources on home insemination, check out this link for a comprehensive overview here. Also, for more details on pregnancy, this resource could be beneficial.
In summary, the trials of being a working mom are numerous, but the emotional turmoil of being away from your sick child can be the most challenging aspect. As we navigate these complexities, it’s essential to recognize the value of both roles.