It’s late at night, and after what feels like an endless battle of getting my kids to sleep, I finally have a moment of peace. However, instead of resting, my mind races with thoughts of unfinished tasks and the many ways I feel like I’m letting people down. As much as I strive to be a dedicated mom and supportive partner, I’m painfully aware that I’m falling short as a friend.
I don’t want to make excuses. If I can find time to indulge in the occasional binge-watch session, I should certainly be able to respond to your texts and emails. But here are a few reasons why I might not have gotten back to you:
- I intended to reach out, but it was 6 AM—when most people are still asleep.
- I misplaced my phone amidst the chaos.
- Our cat decided to have an accident on the floor.
- A child of mine had a similar mishap.
- I mentally composed a reply but forgot to send it.
- By the time I remembered, I was already half-asleep.
- My kid had commandeered my phone for some peace and quiet.
- I promised myself I’d respond when I had a moment, but that moment never arrived.
- Someone once again managed to flood the toilet.
- My anxiety holds me back from reaching out, even when I want to connect.
Life has a way of getting in the way, and I know I’m not alone in this struggle. My friends are important to me, and if something serious were to arise, I’d be there in a heartbeat. But when it comes to the routine check-ins and catch-ups, I’m falling behind.
Reflecting on friendships from our 20s, it’s clear that life was much different back then. We had the time and resources to enjoy spontaneous nights out without worrying about babysitters. Now, in our 30s, our time together often consists of sporadic texts and plans that tend to fall through. When we do manage to get together, we cherish every moment, even if we’re ready to crash by 10 PM, knowing that responsibilities await us the following day.
As moms, we often prioritize our families before ourselves, pouring our energy into our children and partners. Self-care, when it does happen, can look like a guilty Netflix binge or a quiet moment in the fridge after the kids are asleep. It’s a delicate balance we must maintain to recharge and be the best versions of ourselves.
I genuinely care about my friends, but my focus has shifted as I navigate the complexities of parenting and maintaining my marriage. This phase is temporary; soon, our children will become more independent, and I’ll have the opportunity to reconnect. So please don’t forget about me or think I’ve forgotten about you. Once the dust settles, I’ll be eager to reconnect over coffee and laughter.
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In summary, while I may not be the friend I wish to be at the moment, my priorities are simply shifting as I manage the demands of motherhood and life. I appreciate your understanding and look forward to reconnecting when the time is right.