In today’s discussions about education, we often hear a lot about standardized test results, curriculum frameworks, teacher assessments, and struggling schools. While I am a strong advocate for public education and deeply invested in my children’s academic journeys, I find myself largely indifferent to these metrics. It’s not the test scores that matter to me, nor do I fully grasp the implications of common core standards. What’s more, traditional measurements of teacher effectiveness and the label of “underperforming” schools are fundamentally flawed.
These evaluation systems overlook the myriad factors that contribute to a student’s learning experience and fail to capture what truly defines a great teacher. The essence of effective education can’t be easily quantified — it’s something you recognize when you encounter it.
My children have been fortunate enough to learn from remarkable educators, none of whom achieved success based on their class’s average test scores or my kids’ progress in terms of charts and graphs deemed appropriate by educational experts. Instead, their effectiveness had nothing to do with numerical assessments.
While I certainly want my children to stay “on track” academically, my primary concern lies in their growth as individuals. Subjects such as reading, math, and science are undeniably important, but what truly matters is whether a teacher is nurturing a child’s potential to become the best version of themselves.
I recall a poignant moment from my eldest son’s second-grade year. I sat in a small chair, overcome with emotion, not due to any academic struggles, but because of his teacher’s emphasis on kindness and friendship. We discussed my son’s spirited nature and his challenges with focus and impulse control. My husband and I concluded that our sole priority during this developmental phase was to cultivate his character. Was he kind? Did he assist others? Was he respectful and inclusive on the playground? Did he persevere through difficulties? Did he demonstrate curiosity and ask questions?
Those were the metrics I valued, rather than whether he was performing at, above, or below grade level in math or reading. As I expressed my concerns, fearing that his vibrant personality might be stifled in the classroom, the teacher comforted me, affirming that he was a good-hearted boy who uplifted his peers despite his impulsivity. In that moment, I knew she was exceptional — a true standout. A teacher who would shed a few tears over the purity of childhood understands what is most important.
Another educator, who teaches my younger son, frequently praises his enthusiasm for learning, noting his inquisitive nature and eagerness to engage with new concepts. She, too, exemplifies greatness.
Now that my older son is in fifth grade, he faces the significant transition to middle school, complete with its own academic and social hurdles. When his teacher recognized that his engagement was linked to his interests, she proactively sought ways to stimulate his curiosity instead of simply urging him to “try harder.” During moments of social difficulty, he didn’t turn to me or my husband for help; instead, he approached his teacher, trusting her guidance — and she delivered. She truly understands her role in his growth.
While I want my children to grasp algebra and grammar rules, my greater desire is for them to learn about compassion, friendship, respect, self-advocacy, and perseverance. These essential lessons can’t be taught solely at home; it truly takes a community effort to raise well-rounded individuals.
A good teacher can help a student advance through academic levels, but a great teacher fosters personal growth, guiding them to become compassionate individuals and empowering them to reach their fullest potential. For more insights on topics related to parenthood and education, explore this other blog post.
In summary, the true measure of a great teacher transcends academic performance. It lies in their ability to shape character, instill values, and inspire curiosity. The collaborative effort between educators and parents is vital in nurturing children into compassionate, capable individuals.