Children are known for their strong opinions and intense emotions, often feeling constrained by the numerous rules that govern their lives. To foster a sense of independence and ownership, it is essential for children to find avenues through which they can express themselves. As a parent of two youngsters, ages 7 and 5, I impose strict limits on screen time, sugary treats, and bedtime routines to prevent chaos at mealtimes and during the night. However, one area where I relinquish control is in the realm of clothing.
In our household, attire serves as a medium for self-expression. My children select their own outfits for school, and although they might occasionally emerge resembling a before picture featured in a fashion overhaul show, I celebrate their autonomy in this aspect.
My eldest child, during a two-year phase, embraced animal prints with fervor, showcasing a preference for jungle-themed patterns. She would mix and match leopard and cheetah prints, accessorizing with various items, much to my bemusement. However, I prioritized her happiness over fashion norms; as long as she was dressed, that was sufficient.
Her imagination is equally as vibrant as her fashion choices. At three years old, her daycare teacher remarked on her “out loud voice,” a euphemism for her penchant for storytelling. The outfits she chose often mirrored her mood and the narratives unfolding in her mind. Currently, she favors sports-themed T-shirts paired with cowboy boots, which my partner had to search extensively for, ultimately discovering them at a local tack shop. Feeling good in her clothes is vital, especially as she navigates the social landscape of second grade.
When friends inquired if we intended to dress my twins in matching outfits, I responded with a resounding no. Coordinating outfits for twins would require time and energy I simply do not possess. Furthermore, my twins are individuals deserving of their own identities, and I have no intention of imposing conformity through clothing.
I have always instilled in my children the understanding that clothing serves primarily to cover and protect our bodies, and that it does not define gender. My children’s choices reflect their identities, and when my youngest child, assigned male at birth, resisted wearing navy sweatpants, it became evident that clothing was a vital form of self-expression. She has known from a young age that she identifies as a girl, seeking out clothing that reflects her true self. I rummaged through bins to find dresses, skirts, and vibrant colors that resonate with her identity.
Transitioning her pronouns and ensuring her identification aligns with her gender has been an integral part of her journey. However, it was her choice of clothing that provided her with affirmation; wearing gendered clothing became a means for her to assert her identity.
In a similar vein, my son has also expressed his preferences. When offered traditional athletic wear, he opted for something outside the norm—tights. He understood societal perceptions but ultimately chose to express himself through attire that made him feel comfortable and empowered. His assertion that “tights are for super heroes” underscores the importance of allowing children to define their own identities through personal expression.
As long as their choices are appropriate for the weather, my children are free to wear whatever they desire. This approach simplifies our morning routine, allowing them to express their creativity and individuality. Their clothing choices, whether mismatched patterns or superhero attire, contribute to their confidence and sense of control in a world that often feels overwhelming for children.
In summary, granting children the freedom to select their clothing fosters self-expression, confidence, and a sense of autonomy. It is a small yet impactful way to empower them as they navigate the complexities of growing up.
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