Since the political landscape shifted dramatically in 2016, numerous friendships have come to an end as individuals became more open about their political identities. Previously, discussions surrounding politics were reserved for private conversations and often avoided in social contexts. Many people could comfortably separate their political affiliations from their social interactions, particularly at the ballot box.
However, the contentious candidates that emerged during the 2016 election fundamentally altered this dynamic. Politics became deeply personal, leading to the dissolution of many friendships. Yet, the underlying reasons for these breakups extend far beyond mere political disagreements.
The Shift in Political Ideology
Over the past three decades, the Republican Party has veered increasingly towards extreme conservatism. This shift has fostered a narrative centered on so-called “family values,” which often upholds a narrow, traditional view of the American family structure. This perspective fails to recognize the diversity of family dynamics present today. Additionally, there’s a pervasive rhetoric suggesting an “attack” on whiteness, as if the increasing ethnic diversity in America poses a threat to the status quo. The reality is that the demographic shifts are not diminishing the white population, but rather reflecting a more inclusive society.
Politics and Personal Beliefs
Politics have always been intertwined with personal beliefs. Individuals typically align with a party they believe will serve their interests. However, when a political party’s foundation is built on the oppression of marginalized communities, those friendships can falter. Friendships often break down when political views contribute to the exclusion of those already marginalized.
As a single mother navigating life as a Black, queer woman, I embody several of the groups that conservative viewpoints often target. I depend on programs like SNAP for assistance and utilize federally funded healthcare for my son. Before 2016, political conversations with friends were rare, as many of them shared my belief that all individuals, especially those from marginalized backgrounds, deserve the same freedoms as the majority.
The Impact of the 2016 Election
In the lead-up to the 2016 election, and during the transitional period after, several of my friendships ended. The crux of these separations stemmed from my discomfort with friends who either celebrated the election of a candidate who thrived on hate or seemed indifferent to the fears faced by those affected by his policies.
Anyone who has lost friendships over political beliefs knows that these aren’t simply knee-jerk reactions; they are revealing of deeper values. When someone exposes their true beliefs, it can feel like a betrayal. You may find yourself hesitating over the decision to “unfriend” someone, pondering whether a difference in politics is worth sacrificing a friendship. However, clarity often emerges.
Values Beyond Politics
This isn’t just about differing political views; it’s about fundamental values, priorities, and beliefs. The political campaign of the former president was steeped in messages of fear and hatred, targeting immigrants, people of color, and women. Supporting such a candidate implies endorsing a platform that actively marginalizes these groups, which is hard for many to reconcile.
The current political climate has serious implications. Hate crimes are escalating, and as a Black woman, I often find myself in situations fraught with danger. The reality is that innocent lives are lost due to a political agenda that prioritizes power over humanity. Children face bullying and discrimination simply because of their race or sexual orientation, and women are stripped of their rights regarding reproductive health.
Children from impoverished backgrounds are denied quality education, and those seeking asylum are placed in appalling conditions. All this occurs under the guise of making America “great,” a notion that many find absurd.
The Consequences of Political Affiliations
Friendships dissolve over politics not merely because of differing affiliations, but because those affiliations can support the dehumanization of countless individuals living in America. Friends who maintain political beliefs that contribute to the suffering of others are often difficult to reconcile with for those who possess a conscience. Labeling those who end friendships as “immature” misses the point; the real immaturity lies in supporting individuals who thrive on division and hatred.
Mature adults recognize that the world extends beyond their immediate surroundings. Everyone deserves basic rights and dignity, including access to clean water and food security. Friendships falter when individuals realize that their friends’ political views are tied to the suffering of others. This realization is simply unacceptable.
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Conclusion
In summary, the division of friendships over political differences often stems from the values and beliefs that underpin those politics. When political affiliations contribute to the marginalization and suffering of others, friendships can become untenable.