“Looks like we need a bigger vehicle,” I joked to my partner on the day we made the decision to withdraw our preteen from public school and transition to homeschooling. While the comment about the vehicle was light-hearted, the choice to homeschool was anything but trivial. As I quickly learned, homeschooling demands a significant time commitment and requires a major lifestyle shift, particularly since our children had only experienced traditional schooling since kindergarten.
What Led Us to This Decision?
It’s a complex story. Our child faced challenges for around 18 months. She is kind, imaginative, and welcoming, but I sensed something was off as her grades slipped, teacher feedback became concerning, and homework turned into an exhausting ordeal each evening.
After receiving several insightful diagnoses, we began to understand her unique needs. This prompted my partner and I to sit down for a heartfelt discussion about what would be in our child’s best interest during this challenging time.
To clarify, we are not against public education. My partner’s parents were public school teachers, and both of us attended public schools ourselves. I even worked as a teacher at a public university. Additionally, two of our school-aged children attend an exceptional public elementary school. However, our child was truly struggling. She once thrived in school—enjoying everything from the bus ride to recess games and science lessons—but slowly, she began to fade into a place of distress, through no fault of her own.
It felt as if my child had a broken leg but was expected to run a marathon alongside her peers. A daunting expectation. The moment I suggested the idea of homeschooling, an overwhelming sense of calm enveloped me. Suddenly, we had a way out, a strategy for relief and safety.
I realize that may sound dramatic, but when your child is in pain, the protective instincts of a parent kick in fiercely. It was time for a significant, positive transformation.
The Joy of Transition
When we informed our daughter about the decision to homeschool, her reaction was pure joy. She beamed and squealed, as if I had announced that a unicorn was now part of our family. That moment was nothing short of magical. The relief I felt was mirrored in her expression.
The initial weeks of homeschooling were a period of significant adjustment. Following our doctor’s recommendations, we focused on workbook activities combined with extensive reading to enhance her vocabulary and comprehension skills. This was just one of many approaches available to homeschooling families. Some choose online schooling, others participate in co-ops, and many find a mix of strategies that work best for their children.
During those early homeschooling weeks, which seemed to stretch endlessly, I discovered what my child truly needed to learn. I was able to provide that support, and her frustrations quickly diminished. I watched as she started to grasp concepts and tackle tasks that once felt impossible in her previous schooling environment. Just last week, after years of struggle, she correctly solved all 24 triple-digit math problems on her own.
Most importantly, she knows I care. When she encounters challenges, we collaborate to overcome them, enabling her to learn effectively.
Overcoming Misconceptions
I must admit that my initial misconceptions about homeschooling made me feel apprehensive when others noticed my tween with me during school hours. Would they perceive me as unconventional or anti-public school? As a child, I only knew a couple of homeschooling families and had formed certain assumptions based on that limited experience. However, I soon realized that people were genuinely curious, allowing me to share our story. I would respond with a smile, “Yes, she’s in school. We homeschool!” Often, this would lead to conversations where others revealed their own interest in homeschooling or shared positive experiences related to it.
Homeschoolers come from diverse backgrounds. No, we aren’t part of a cult, nor do we believe public school is the worst option out there. We make this choice based on what we feel is best for our children.
So yes, this progressive mom of a multiracial, adoptive family is embracing homeschooling. Yes, I have a minivan that serves as our family’s mobile hub for blasting music while running errands. And yes, I support public education and the teachers who dedicate their lives to it.
A New Chapter
In this chapter of our lives, we are fully invested in homeschooling. By 3:45 p.m. each day, all my children gather back at home. My two middle kids arrive from their wonderful public school, and my youngest rushes to greet them with excitement. We gather around the kitchen bar, sharing stories of our days while enjoying snacks. It’s a beautiful representation of the diverse ways my children learn.
Homeschooling has transformed our lives for the better, rekindling our tween’s joy for learning. That alone makes every sacrifice worthwhile. For more insights on family dynamics, consider checking out this excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination.
Summary
In deciding to homeschool our child after a period of struggle in public school, we found a path that restored joy and success in her learning experience. The transition involved significant adjustments but ultimately allowed us to meet her unique needs and foster a supportive learning environment. This choice reflects our commitment to what’s best for our children, embracing the diverse ways families can thrive in education.