Recently, while getting a haircut, my stylist brought up her dislike for the scent of cigarette smoke. Without hesitation, I confessed to my fondness for it. Having dabbled in smoking during high school and college, I occasionally find myself tempted to buy a pack. As someone in recovery from alcohol addiction, I once grappled with the urge to smoke, but thankfully, I recognized that I didn’t need another addiction to manage. Nonetheless, the smell remains oddly comforting to me. I even enjoy the scent of skunk and have a penchant for examining and sniffing unpleasant things.
I always thought I was just quirky—maybe I am—but it turns out I belong to the category of benign masochists, and I’m not alone in this fascination.
Understanding Benign Masochism
Benign masochism, as highlighted in a study titled “Glad to be Sad, and Other Examples of Benign Masochism,” describes the phenomenon where individuals find enjoyment in experiences that elicit negative reactions from the body and mind, all while feeling secure. This thrilling interplay between mind and matter can be exhilarating. When we engage with emotions like fear, disgust, or sorrow in safe, controlled environments, we often find joy in the experience.
Led by psychologist Dr. Leo Miller, researchers have identified that many individuals take pleasure in what would typically be seen as unpleasant activities, a concept known as hedonic reversal. Consider the enjoyment derived from a scary movie or a haunted house—why would anyone willingly put themselves in a frightful situation? After all, who craves goosebumps or a racing heartbeat?
Surprisingly, many people do. This attraction relates to how our bodies respond to fear. When faced with a perceived threat, our brains trigger a fight, flight, or freeze response, flooding us with chemicals that can mimic the effects of an opioid high. The release of adrenaline, endorphins, and dopamine results in a euphoric feeling, and when we do not have to escape real danger, we can simply enjoy the exhilarating rush while knowing we are safe.
The Joy of Sadness
Benign masochism also manifests in our enjoyment of sad experiences. Many willingly expose themselves to sadness through movies, books, or music. Crying can be a form of self-soothing; it releases endorphins and oxytocin, helping us feel better. By choosing to engage with sad narratives, we reap the emotional benefits without the burdens of genuine distress. We can experience the catharsis of tears while remaining safe from real-life heartbreak.
Consider the satisfaction derived from a challenging workout, a spicy meal, or a massage that digs deep into sore muscles—these are all manifestations of benign masochism. Dr. Miller explains that a roller coaster is a prime example; you’re perfectly safe, yet your body reacts as if it were in danger, creating a thrilling sensation.
The Allure of the Unknown
But why do we also put ourselves through challenges like tasting bizarre jelly bean flavors or sampling disgusting beverages? The allure of the unknown, witnessing something grotesque, or tasting something repulsive yet harmless is all part of benign masochism. Disgust researcher Dr. Emily Curtis notes that experiencing disgust in safe contexts helps us identify and avoid actual dangers, such as diseases or social injustices. Our collective discomfort with unsanitary conditions or injustice fosters a healthier society.
Even experiences like smelling a corpse flower, which emits the odor of decaying flesh, attract crowds. People line up just to catch a whiff of this rare bloom, which only appears for a fleeting moment every decade. Dr. Curtis suggests that this curiosity stems from a desire to understand what such a scent entails without encountering real danger.
In essence, many of us would likely snap a selfie next to a corpse flower. If you identify as a benign masochist, the thrill of watching horror films featuring undead characters or sniffing something deemed disgusting is likely right up your alley. Embrace the weirdness, my friends; we all have our quirks.
Further Reading
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Summary
The phenomenon of benign masochism explains why we often find pleasure in experiences that provoke negative reactions, such as fear, disgust, or sadness, all while feeling secure. This enjoyment arises from our body’s response to perceived threats, creating thrilling sensations without real danger. Whether it’s scary movies, sad songs, or even bizarre flavors, benign masochism allows us to explore discomfort safely, ultimately enriching our experiences and understanding of emotions.