As you begin to explore relationships with young men, it’s essential to understand the distinction between a “nice guy” and a “good man.” You’re entering a complex world of dating, and it’s crucial to discern the true character of those you meet.
Let me share a story from my college days about a guy named Lucas. He was the kind of person who seemed charming and kind-hearted, always bringing thoughtful gifts and planning delightful outings. To those around him, he appeared to be a genuinely nice guy. However, beneath that facade, he often exhibited troubling behavior. He was known to lead women on, break promises, and engage in reckless behavior after disagreements. The next day, he would don his charming persona, making apologies and pledges of change, only for the cycle to repeat.
Though many were fooled by Lucas’s exterior, he was not a good man. This is a reminder that many women are drawn to nice guys; they can be incredibly appealing and easy to spend time with. They know how to create a positive first impression and often present themselves in ways that seem admirable, even when their actions suggest otherwise.
As you navigate the dating landscape, remember that not every nice guy is a good man. It’s important to take your time and truly understand someone’s character before becoming too involved. The more experiences you have, the better you’ll become at distinguishing between the two.
A nice guy may know how to charm you with sweet words, but a good man will consistently demonstrate his worth through actions. A nice guy might make you laugh, but a good man will support you through tough times. He will recognize the beauty within you and encourage you to express it. A nice guy may hold the door open, yet a good man will be there to support you when life gets tough.
If a nice guy offers you his jacket, a good man will share his time and heart with you. A nice guy might bring you flowers, while a good man invests in your dreams and aspirations. A nice guy could walk you to your car, but a good man will walk alongside you through life’s challenges, helping you build a future together.
If my friend had chosen to marry Lucas, it would have been a grave mistake. When she sought my advice, I urged her to recognize that nice guys are not always good men. It’s vital to ensure that any potential partner is someone you can wholeheartedly trust as a good man.
When considering a serious relationship, reflect on whether he consistently shows responsibility, honesty, kindness, and integrity. Is he merely charming and fun, or does he back up his words with meaningful actions? Falling for nice guys is easy; I’ve been there, and I know many women who have too. But when it comes time to find a partner, focus on finding a good man instead.
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Love,
Mom