As I anticipate the arrival of my third and final child, I reflect on my journey through pregnancy. Like my previous experiences, this one has been relatively uneventful. Sure, I’m dealing with the usual discomforts—fatigue, nausea, and yes, those pesky pregnancy hemorrhoids—but overall, my pregnancies have been smooth sailing.
You might be wondering why I’m sharing this. Well, there’s more to my story: I’m plus-size and pregnant, and this is my third time navigating this path. While pregnancy itself has been manageable, the reactions from others can be anything but pleasant. Many people seem skeptical about my health and the well-being of my baby, often equating weight with health in a way that’s both misguided and hurtful.
Even outside of pregnancy, I find myself the target of unsolicited advice and judgments. Society often assumes that a larger body equals poor health, and I often endure assumptions and comments that are not only incorrect but also exhausting. When I’m pregnant, the scrutiny intensifies. I’m careful about what I consume, not for my appearance, but for the health of my unborn child. It’s disheartening that others might suggest my size puts my baby in danger without any real understanding of my health.
Pregnancy, regardless of size, can be a challenging experience. Complications like gestational diabetes or preeclampsia can affect anyone, and they don’t discriminate based on body type. The reality is that any pregnant individual is vulnerable to the unpredictability of pregnancy. A healthy pregnancy can occur in bodies of all shapes and sizes.
I’ve seen the other side of the narrative too. On social media, countless women have shared their positive plus-size pregnancy experiences, proving that healthy pregnancies are entirely possible for those who are plus-sized.
It’s crucial to acknowledge that medical professionals should monitor potential risks associated with plus-size pregnancies. However, unless you’re a healthcare provider and someone is your patient, it’s best to refrain from discussing their health. It’s not just ignorant; it’s also disrespectful.
During my first pregnancy, I encountered a midwife who treated my size as a liability, making me feel like an outlier for having a healthy pregnancy. This made me anxious throughout my pregnancy. Thankfully, I switched to an experienced OB/GYN who understands that plus-size pregnancies can be normal and healthy. He was supportive and proactive without unnecessary alarm, treating my third pregnancy with the same care as any other.
The truth is, plus-size pregnancies aren’t the disaster some may assume. The notion that a pregnant woman’s size alone can determine her health or that of her baby is unfounded. Every pregnancy is unique and should be celebrated without judgment.
In conclusion, let’s focus on supporting every pregnant person, regardless of their body size, and allow them the space to enjoy their pregnancies without unsolicited opinions or concerns.
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Summary
This article discusses the journey of being a plus-size pregnant woman and the societal judgments that come with it. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing that healthy pregnancies can occur in individuals of all sizes and encourages a supportive approach to pregnancy without unwarranted concern or scrutiny.