As I cradle my newborn son, I glance at the digital clock on the wall. It’s 2:32 a.m., marking exactly 24 hours since his arrival. Here in the hospital, I’m attempting to guide him through nursing, even though I’m just as inexperienced as he is. We both navigate this new world together. It feels like I held him just moments ago, yet it seems like I’ve known him forever. Together, we persist in this learning journey.
Fast forward, and I find myself in the living room, watching him scurry about, tossing toys from his bin. Lately, he’s become quite the handful, always demanding my attention. It’s a bittersweet feeling—exhaustion mingled with joy. Caring for him and nurturing his sister, who is growing inside me, leaves me drained. I often fantasize about the day when he’ll be more independent and won’t need me for every little thing. In this brief time, he has shown me that love can coexist with frustration, a reality I can’t quite explain to him yet.
Then, I’m crouched down, trying to help him with his shoes, only to discover they’re on the wrong feet. His little brother is perched on my hip, and my patience wears thin as I attempt to teach him how to tie his laces. He’s upset because he wants to do it himself but refuses my help. With a baby and two toddlers demanding my attention, his tears push me to my limit. Ultimately, I tie his shoes for him, eager to escape the house, craving fresh air and a moment of reprieve.
Before I know it, he’s in the fourth grade. He requests Angry Bird cupcakes for his birthday celebration at school. I stay up late, crafting those treats, and it feels like a victory when I can finally put the kids to bed without a hitch. The next morning, his excitement over the cupcakes is palpable, yet he asks me not to bring them into the classroom. “It’s so embarrassing,” he insists. I comply, realizing this might be his last year wanting such a gesture for his birthday.
Suddenly, he’s 11, riding his old bike and working with his grandfather to save up for a new mountain bike. The effort pays off, and in September, he proudly purchases it himself. As he converses with the salesman, I catch a glimpse of a young man emerging—knowledgeable and confident. It’s a moment that marks a shift in how I see him.
Now, he’s almost 14, preparing for his first semi-formal dance at the end of junior high. “Do I need to bring flowers or a corsage?” I inquire, to which he quickly replies, “No, Mom. That’s so dumb.” I let him guide the way, dropping him off at the curb alongside his friend, and I park a bit further away to watch them wait for their dates.
How did we arrive at this point? One moment we’re teaching our kids to tie their shoes, and the next, we’re witnessing them prepare for significant milestones. They teach us just as much as we teach them.
In fleeting moments, we catch a glimpse of them performing simple tasks like combing their hair or making a sandwich. They know we’re watching, but they remain unaware of the emotional journey we’ve traveled since their birth. They don’t realize the pangs of guilt we feel for needing time away from them or the depth of our love. They exist as babies, toddlers, and children in our memories while embodying the young adults they are becoming.
They have no idea how breathtaking they are.
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Summary
This reflective piece captures a mother’s journey as she observes her son transitioning from infancy to adolescence. Each stage of his growth brings challenges and joys, highlighting the deep connection and lessons learned along the way.