We all long for a sense of community. We wish to feel secure enough to rely on one another again, sharing resources like Band-Aids, juice boxes, and supportive hands. We want to engage with each other at the playground, not just scroll through our devices. We yearn for connection and believe that it truly does take a village to raise children.
It’s comforting to know that other adults are looking out for our kids, understanding that every child is a collective responsibility. This means that if your child is behaving poorly, I’m ready to intervene. Likewise, if my child is acting like a little brat, I hope you’ll do the same.
Let me clarify: I’m not going to yell at your child for throwing sand at mine. I wouldn’t appreciate you doing that to my child either. Such actions are rude, hurtful, and can be traumatic. I’ve experienced strangers yelling at my children for behaviors they misinterpreted, which only made me angry. My kids have ADHD, which means they might need gentle redirection rather than harsh scolding. Your child could also be dealing with similar challenges, and I try to keep that in mind when stepping in.
Kids will be kids, and it’s a fact that they’ll misbehave at times. However, certain actions warrant intervention from adults, especially if I can’t see you or don’t know where you are. Here are some instances when I will step in:
- Bullying: If your child is name-calling or bullying mine, I will intervene. We don’t tolerate that behavior in our home, and neither should you.
- Physical Aggression: Whether it’s shoving or hitting, I will address any physical violence. It doesn’t matter who started it; we must promote safe play.
- Dangerous Situations: If I believe your child is in a hazardous situation, I will act. For example, if I see a toddler near a cliff, I’ll step in because safety is paramount.
- Inappropriate Discussions: If your child is sharing explicit content with mine, I will have a conversation with them. This isn’t about shaming; it’s about protecting my child from questions they aren’t ready for.
- Disregarding Boundaries: When a child repeatedly ignores another’s request to stop touching them, I will step in. Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected.
- Taking Toys: If a child snatches a toy from another, I will address it. Taking something that isn’t yours is unacceptable behavior.
When stepping in, it’s crucial to approach the situation with kindness. I won’t barge in yelling, regardless of what happened. Instead, I will speak gently and introduce myself as a familiar figure in the community. “Hi, I’m Alex’s parent,” I would say, establishing a connection that makes me more approachable.
Next, I’ll name the behavior. “I noticed you called that child a jerk or took their toy. That’s not very nice, and I’m sure your parents wouldn’t want you acting this way.” This approach reinforces the idea that parents are on the same team and sets clear expectations for behavior.
Finally, I will state that I need to address the behavior. “I’m going to have to ask you to stop that, or I’ll need to talk to your parent about it.” I’ll also offer support, saying something like, “I can help you play nicely if you’re having trouble.”
If my child misbehaves, please inform me immediately—don’t hesitate. I want to know what happened, how you handled it, and if you did it well, I’d love to show my appreciation.
So, don’t hesitate to step in when kids are acting out, but do so with kindness. Remember, these children are still learning to be good humans, just like yours. In the end, we are all trying our best.
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Summary
It’s essential to foster a supportive community where adults are willing to step in when children misbehave. By addressing negative behaviors with kindness and understanding, we can create a safer and more respectful environment for all children.