May 28, 2020
Summer camp has been canceled. Graduation ceremonies are off the table. Dance recitals have turned into virtual events in our living rooms. Lacrosse season? Gone. The spring semester of freshman year has shifted entirely to the confines of their bedrooms. The last day of school, once set to be a joyous outing at an amusement park, has been canceled too. Spring break? Canceled. Birthday celebrations? Canceled. Beaches and pools are closed for the summer. It has been ten weeks since we last saw our immediate family, with family visits all canceled.
“Will I even have a senior year?” “What is there to look forward to?” “I hate that I finally found a school I love and now I’m stuck at home.”
I feel this too. All of it.
As parents, we each process these unprecedented times differently, and on various days, the weight of it all varies. The most challenging aspect is realizing that it could potentially be much worse; thankfully, we are not currently facing a health or financial crisis. Yet, the feeling of helplessness looms large because I find myself unable to provide comfort or solutions for my teens.
Typically, I’m the one who brings the Band-Aids, bakes cookies, and offers hugs and support. When I can’t seem to do that effectively, I usually rely on the wisdom passed down from my mother, grandmother, or other moms. This time, however, I feel as though I have nothing insightful to say. My teenagers are not resisting the stay-at-home orders; they wear masks without complaint and understand that we are in this together.
I’m trying to keep their spirits up with nostalgic activities like paint-by-numbers and childhood board games, binge-watching on Disney+ and Netflix, and organizing themed family dinners. My husband has even taken to TikTok, much to my relief.
Yet, my teens remain sad. And I share that sadness. I can’t fix this situation. We are all grieving various losses—big and small.
In my most honest moments, whether alone or chatting with my sister, I admit: This situation is tough. We are bored, and while I feel grateful at times, I also wrestle with guilt for recognizing any silver linings. I feel as if I should be more appreciative of our time together.
We do enjoy having family time, but it’s not always enjoyable for me. I feel a sense of guilt about that too. I’m fortunate to have a house where all five of us can work and attend online school, but I often feel there’s no personal space for me.
“I hope your senior year ends up being amazing, no matter how it looks.” “I hope you maintain your excitement for summer camp next year.” “I’m grateful to have you home from college for these bonus months.”
Yet, I still can’t fix this. Others may be facing far more significant challenges than we are. My teens are unhappy, but I have faith that we will get through this together.
We may not be heroes or on the front lines, but we are doing our part. This will eventually come to an end, and we all hold onto hope for a brighter future.
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In summary, while the current situation presents numerous challenges for families, particularly for teenagers, it’s vital to remain connected and supportive, despite feelings of helplessness. Open communication and shared experiences can help navigate these trying times.