In December, prior to the onset of the pandemic, I experienced an extended period of depression that lingered into February. Various stressors from work, coupled with the underwhelming reception of a book I had published, contributed to my emotional downturn. Initially, I brushed off the emerging news about the coronavirus, much like many others. However, as it swiftly spread across the United States, my life was thrown into disarray. I found myself trying to regain my footing while navigating the overwhelming flood of information, assessing the real threat it posed. Additionally, I had to adapt to the demands of teaching my children while working remotely, which felt like a tidal wave crashing over me.
Admittedly, the chaos kept my mind too occupied to succumb fully to my depression. Yet, after a month when things calmed down, I had a moment to truly feel, and it became clear that I was heading into one of the darkest depressive phases I had ever faced. Despite having dealt with significant anxiety and depression for years, and possessing the resources and medication to manage my condition, I still found it challenging to take the necessary steps to seek help during such unprecedented times.
I often find myself in a cycle of knowing I need assistance, recognizing my struggles to get out of bed, avoiding social interactions, and merely going through the motions of daily life. Yet, I hesitate to schedule an appointment with my therapist. I make excuses and delay action.
However, my partner, Laura, has an uncanny ability to sense when I’m not okay. Last month, she sat me down for a heartfelt discussion about therapy. In a compassionate, non-accusatory manner, she expressed her concerns about my well-being and suggested that I reach out to my therapist.
We’ve been together for fifteen years, and this conversation has occurred several times. Each time, I resist the idea, convinced I can manage on my own, assuring her that I will be fine and that I possess the necessary tools to cope. Yet, as has happened before, I ultimately agree to make an appointment. After attending a few sessions, I start to feel markedly better and appreciate her insight and care for my mental health.
Like many individuals grappling with depression, thoughts of suicide occasionally creep into my mind, which makes Laura’s willingness to confront me about seeking help all the more significant. Her intervention could very well be a lifesaving act of love.
Currently, we are all facing immense challenges. Unemployment rates are soaring, and many are confined to their homes, attempting to avoid illness while trying to cope with a constantly evolving situation. This environment can be a breeding ground for depression, as evidenced by countless posts online detailing the emotional toll of navigating COVID-19.
If you find yourself feeling similarly, I urge you to invest time in seeking support. Numerous state-funded resources remain available for those battling depression, and many therapists are now offering online sessions. Since Laura encouraged me to pursue this route, I’ve been meeting with my therapist virtually.
Crucially, if you observe that your partner is struggling with depression but hesitant to seek help, take the time to talk to them. Let them know you’ve noticed their distress, express your concern, and do so in a loving, non-judgmental manner. Assure them that you want to support them through this challenging period.
It’s important to recognize that depression can paralyze individuals, making even the thought of reaching out for help seem insurmountable. Offer your assistance by helping them locate resources, conducting searches, or contacting their insurance for them. Dedicate an hour to this effort; your insistence, coupled with compassion, can significantly ease their burden.
I must admit, I often resist Laura’s interventions. However, every time she steps in, I find myself grateful for her love and support. Be that steadfast ally for your partner, particularly during this trying time; they may need you more than ever. For additional insights on topics related to home insemination, check out this informative article.
For those interested in further expanding their knowledge on home insemination, Cryobaby’s at-home insemination kit serves as a trusted resource, while the Johns Hopkins Fertility Center offers excellent information on pregnancy and insemination.
Summary
Recognizing the signs of depression in a partner and encouraging them to seek help can be a crucial act of love. During challenging times, it’s important to approach the subject with compassion and support, helping to alleviate the burden of seeking assistance.