In a recent publication by Home Insemination Kit, Ryan Carter opens up about his dynamic relationship with his parent, Taylor Carter. This essay is an excerpt from To Me, She Was Just Mom, a compilation featuring reflections from children of prominent figures.
About Taylor Carter
Taylor Carter, a former Olympic champion and television personality, was born in 1949 in a small town in New York. She gained fame during the 1976 Summer Olympics for her decathlon victory, earning the title of “the world’s greatest athlete.” After her athletic career, she transitioned into business and entrepreneurship. With three marriages under her belt, she notably starred in a reality series that highlighted her family life. Among her six children are her firstborn, Ryan, and his siblings: Jake, Olivia, and Mia.
Ryan’s Reflections
In his essay, Ryan shares that for much of his early life, Taylor avoided the simple question, “How are you doing?” This reluctance stemmed from her struggles, creating a barrier that complicated their bond. Vulnerability is essential for genuine connection, and Ryan felt that his parent’s guarded nature kept her emotionally distant during his upbringing.
As the first child from Taylor’s second marriage, Ryan recalls living in a charming craftsman home in Malibu. However, his memories before the divorce are scant, as he was only four when Taylor began her transition process. At that age, he couldn’t fully grasp the implications of their decision. He does remember, however, small moments that later revealed deeper truths, such as when Taylor, after surgery, humorously explained the stitches behind her ear.
The Impact of Divorce
Despite their best efforts to maintain stability, Ryan sensed the tension between his parents. They sought therapy before ultimately concluding that divorce was necessary, which led to a period of amicability. Taylor later started dating someone new, who, while not a father figure to Ryan, played a significant role in their household.
After the separation, Taylor’s journey toward transitioning faced interruptions, resulting in heightened conflict with Ryan’s mother. The emotional fallout from these changes diminished Ryan’s interactions with Taylor, as he only saw her a handful of times until he reached adulthood. Their encounters often felt contrived, primarily orchestrated for family holiday cards rather than authentic connection.
Memories and Reconnection
Most of Ryan’s memories of Taylor come from before the age of eight. He fondly remembers playful moments, like challenging him and his brother to races up sand dunes or making a deal about a bike he wanted. But after Taylor married again, Ryan distanced himself from their family dynamic, sensing that Taylor was unhappy in that environment.
As time passed and Taylor’s daughters with her new partner entered their teenage years, Ryan found opportunities to reconnect with his parent. Their relationship gradually blossomed, although it often revolved around shared activities rather than deep conversations. Ryan soon became a confidant for Taylor when she finally decided to fully embrace her identity. His acknowledgment of her transition brought him joy, as he recognized it as a pivotal moment in her life.
A New Chapter
Now, Ryan is dedicated to nurturing a close relationship with Taylor, speaking frequently and openly discussing their lives. Their connection has grown stronger, symbolizing a new chapter in their family story.
Further Reading
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Summary
Ryan Carter reflects on his evolving relationship with his parent, Taylor Carter, who transitioned from male to female and navigated complex family dynamics. Their bond, once strained by emotional distance, has since deepened as they embrace open communication and shared experiences.