Do you have a relative who seems to have a knack for giving the worst gifts? Are you tired of dancing around the issue in fear of hurting their feelings, yet secretly hoping for something you actually want? Let’s explore some potential solutions.
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
I realize this may sound trivial, but we really dislike the gifts my mom gives us every year. While she genuinely puts thought into her presents and has always enjoyed gift-giving, she rarely adheres to what we actually want or need. She does ask the kids for their wish lists, but somehow still misses the mark. I feel like she’s wasting her money, and I can’t just return or exchange the gifts since she visits often and would definitely notice. She frequently asks if we’re enjoying what she gave us, and while I’ve instructed the kids to say they love them, I think it’s time to address the situation so we can receive gifts we actually appreciate. What’s your take on this? How should we approach the conversation?
It’s great that you recognize this as a first-world problem, because it is one. However, it can still be quite frustrating, and your feelings are entirely valid.
From your message, it’s clear that you care deeply for your mom and that she cares for you and your family as well. You mention that she puts considerable thought into her gifts, which shows her love. It’s important to start from a place of kindness and appreciation.
I understand your annoyance. Personally, I prefer a minimalist lifestyle, and excessive clutter can trigger my anxiety. When family members would gift us a mountain of “stuff” during holidays, my gratitude was often mixed with stress. Over the years, I’ve come to realize that gift-giving can be as rewarding for the giver as it is for the recipient. By graciously accepting your mom’s gifts, you’re also giving her the joy of feeling appreciated.
That said, the reality remains: the gifts aren’t what you desire, and you want to stop pretending otherwise. Begin with baby steps. The next time Grandma asks if little Mia loves the pricey toy she received, you might say something like, “She appreciates your thoughtfulness, but she’s actually really into dinosaurs right now. The puzzle you got her was a huge hit!”
It’s also worthwhile to promote the concept of experiences over material possessions. Let her know you prefer your kids to have experiences rather than more stuff. Share articles highlighting the downsides of excessive consumerism and the advantages of experiential gifts. Provide her with a variety of ideas (if you need suggestions, there are plenty here) and remind her that if she insists on getting a physical gift, it should be something small and manageable.
Your mom might still enjoy the thrill of finding gifts, so instead of giving her an exact list, consider sharing a list of interests for you and the kids, alongside things they dislike. Be specific about what they don’t want. For example, you might say, “Mom, I’ve been into baking lately, and I really want a good mixing bowl. However, I don’t want any more cookbooks.” Or perhaps let her know that your kids are fond of science kits but are not interested in dolls. This approach offers her the chance to find something special while increasing the likelihood of receiving gifts that you truly want.
This conversation won’t happen overnight; it will be a gradual process. Over time, she’ll become accustomed to receiving a bit more guidance and feedback on her gift choices. Celebrate the gifts she gets right to encourage her to continue that trend.
Being thankful for the good gifts will soften the impact when you have to mention returning something or that the kids outgrew a toy. As my grandmother always said, it’s not just what you say, but how you say it. When asking for a receipt for a return or mentioning that the kids no longer need a certain item, kindness will go a long way. It’ll be fine; she’ll adjust, and so will you. Because, as we mentioned earlier, love and care are at the heart of this situation.
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Summary:
Navigating the tricky dynamics of gift-giving with family members can be challenging, especially when gifts miss the mark. It’s important to approach the subject from a place of love and understanding while gradually guiding your loved ones towards more suitable gift choices. Start small by offering feedback and celebrating the good gifts. With kindness and patience, you can foster a more fulfilling gift-giving experience.