Updated: May 6, 2021
Originally Published: Dec. 23, 2020
When I was nearing the end of my pregnancy, my partner and I attended a baby basics workshop. Back in the day, these classes happened in person rather than online. Being the youngest in my family, I had little experience with infants and was clueless about how to properly hold a baby. My knowledge of diaper changing was almost nonexistent (are clothespins still a thing?), and I was overwhelmed by the fragility of a newborn. What if I accidentally touched that soft spot on their head everyone talks about?
Newborns often feel like delicate glass or unstable grenades—adorable yet intimidating. If you’re anything like me, you might break something at least twice a week, so trusting yourself to hold a baby can be nerve-wracking. It often seems like only the baby’s mom is truly qualified to do so. Many new parents share this anxiety about cradling a newborn.
However, there’s nothing quite like the experience of holding a baby—their sweet scent, soft skin, and those precious little gazes can melt your heart. Luckily, you don’t need to miss out on this wonderful experience or let fear take over. Practice is key. Whether you’re about to become a mom or just a nervous aunt, we’ve got you covered. Read on for essential tips on how to hold a baby.
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How to Hold a Baby the Right Way
Though it seems simple, holding a baby can be quite daunting if you’re unfamiliar with it. To boost your confidence, here are some helpful tips:
Wash Your Hands
Before you hold a baby, the first step is to wash your hands thoroughly. This precaution minimizes the risk of getting the infant sick. This rule should apply to all family members who wish to hold the baby. Keeping hand sanitizer nearby is always a good idea, especially for relatives who smoke—thirdhand smoke can harm your newborn, so don’t hesitate to ask them to change clothes and smoke outside.
Sit in a Chair for Extra Support
If you’re feeling anxious, sitting in a supportive chair can help you feel more secure. Comfort is key when learning how to hold a newborn. Standing or moving around can increase your anxiety and make you less confident.
Support the Baby’s Head and Neck
Newborns can’t lift their heads, so it’s crucial to support both the head and neck. Their fontanels, or soft spots, are important for skull growth and must be handled with care. Once you get comfortable holding a baby, your confidence will grow as they become less squirmy.
Try a Shoulder Hold
This position is often more comfortable for new caregivers. You’ll continue to support the baby’s neck and bottom while allowing them to snuggle close to hear your heartbeat, which can be reassuring.
Experiment with Different Holding Positions
If you plan to breastfeed, you’ll discover various positions that are effective for feeding. The “football hold” is one option, where you cradle the baby horizontally, supporting their head and neck while bringing them close to your chest. This hold can be used by anyone, not just breastfeeding moms.
Ensure Their Comfort
While holding the baby, keep an eye out for any signs of discomfort. Newborns typically sleep around 16 hours a day, so it’s common for them to doze off in your arms. Try not to wake them if possible; watching them sleep can enhance your bond.
How to Safely Pick Up a Baby
To pick up a baby, use similar techniques as when holding them. Since their head is the heaviest part, ensure you provide adequate support. Start by placing one hand under the baby’s head and the other under their bottom, gently lifting them close to your body. As long as you support their head and neck, you’re already well on your way to a safe hold.
The Benefits of Holding a Baby
Believe it or not, cuddling your little one has numerous benefits. It can help mothers manage maternal stress and promote calmness. Skin-to-skin contact also assists newborns in regulating their body temperature. If your baby is experiencing discomfort, holding them close can provide relief.
Quotes About Holding Babies
Holding a baby evokes a mix of emotions, from joy to apprehension. Here are some quotes that capture the essence of this experience:
- “This is a place where grandmothers hold babies on their laps, under the stars, and whisper in their ears that the lights in the sky are holes in the floor of heaven.” — Anna Collins
- “Holding a baby in your arms is one of life’s greatest pleasures.” — Unknown
- “For all the things my hands have held, the best by far is you.” — Unknown
- “I hold my whole world in my arms every time I hold my baby.” — Unknown
- “I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.” — Isaiah 46:4
Best Position for a Baby
Knowing how to place a baby down is just as crucial as understanding how to hold them. Infants shouldn’t sit up until they’re ready, as premature sitting can negatively impact their spine. Tummy time is essential for helping babies build strength.
This article was originally published on Dec. 23, 2020.
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Summary
Holding a baby can seem intimidating, but with the right techniques and a bit of practice, you can gain confidence. Always support their head and neck, ensure they are comfortable, and enjoy the special bond that comes from holding your little one.