Recently, in a private parenting group on Facebook, one parent sought advice about purchasing a car for her teenage daughter. She wanted insights on what other parents considered when selecting their teen’s first car — how they found good deals, how much they spent, the contributions made by their teens, and how they ensured a car’s reliability.
Many commenters offered excellent advice, suggesting car-buying websites that provide detailed history reports and allow for online negotiation. Others discussed how their teens had savings accounts or jobs to contribute towards the purchase or ongoing expenses like gas and insurance.
However, a few parents chimed in, proudly stating they had purchased their children high-end cars without requiring any financial input from the teens. These parents were willing to take on additional car payments and cover insurance and fuel costs, often citing reasons like “school comes first” or “they’re too busy.” One mother mentioned spending $12,000 on her child’s car, claiming it was the only option that ensured safety.
While I try not to critique how others choose to raise their children, it’s hard not to be taken aback by the assertion that spending a minimum of $12,000 is necessary for safety. My own car, which I bought nearly new over a decade ago, is worth about $5,000 now. I plan to keep driving it until it can’t run anymore, as I appreciate not having a car payment. It’s maintained well and operates just fine. Does that mean I’m a bad parent for not upgrading? Am I less concerned for my kids’ safety than those parents who insist on expensive vehicles?
These privileged parents seem to have adopted a mindset that their kids must be shielded from what they perceive as unsafe situations. They express an exaggerated fear regarding their children’s safety, as if it’s universally accepted that spending more is the only way to ensure it. This perspective can come off as tone-deaf, especially in a diverse group of parents where many may struggle to afford a vehicle at all.
If you can afford to spend lavishly, that’s a privilege — not a necessity. It’s essential to recognize that for parents who must make do with limited budgets, the idea that a car costing less than $10,000 is unsafe can feel dismissive of their realities. All parents worry about their children’s safety, but not everyone has the financial means to spend excessively to enhance it.
Whether it’s about the best winter boots, an expensive musical instrument, or private tutoring, these extras are luxuries, not requirements. Please don’t frame them as essentials, as it undermines the efforts of parents who care deeply but have fewer resources. If you’re fortunate enough to afford those additional benefits for your child, that’s fantastic — but let’s not conflate that with proof of love or dedication.
Ultimately, you should do what works for you, but a little awareness in your conversations can prevent you from appearing out of touch with the struggles of others.
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Summary:
The article addresses the disparity in parenting choices regarding teenagers’ first cars, highlighting how some parents equate high spending with safety. It encourages a recognition of privilege and urges parents to be mindful of their language, as not all families can afford such luxuries. Ultimately, the message is about understanding and empathy within the parenting community.