As I navigated the challenges of motherhood, I discovered something I like to call the “Mom Face.” This expression serves as my default response when faced with unexpected questions or behaviors from my children, conveying a sense of composure even when I’m caught off guard. I strive to create an atmosphere where my kids feel comfortable asking me anything, but there are some complex topics I’m still figuring out how to address. The Mom Face comes in handy for those moments.
The tumultuous events of 2020, including issues of racism, the pandemic, and political turmoil, have made parenting even more challenging. As we entered 2021, I was met with a jubilant proclamation from my daughter: “I’m going to be the first girl president of the United States!” Her excitement was infectious, and despite my exhaustion from a long day at work, I couldn’t help but feel a spark of hope.
After she read a birthday book from a politically aware family member about a young girl determined to become the next girl president, my daughter’s enthusiasm skyrocketed. The story beautifully illustrated the electoral process but left out the more profound question: why have all presidents been men?
When she asked me this question, I had to put on my Mom Face again. I gave a simplified answer: “Some men didn’t believe women could or should be president, and since women have been allowed to run, none have won.” I knew this answer would likely sound harsh, and even now, I struggle to convey the complexities of misogyny and sexism in a child-friendly manner.
In her innocent world, women accomplish great things every day, and she believes women can do anything men can do. I’ve always encouraged her to work hard to achieve her dreams, but I haven’t yet discussed the obstacles she may face. I’ve kept quiet about the numerous times I’ve been overlooked or dismissed due to my gender or race. The reality is, life isn’t always fair, and explaining that to children is no easy task.
Fortunately, with the election of the first female Vice President, I felt a glimmer of hope. When my daughter asks if she can be the first girl president, I can answer with genuine belief that yes, she absolutely can if she chooses to pursue it.
As I look at my daughter—my little half-Asian, half-European girl growing up in Texas—I know the road won’t always be smooth, but I want her to have the confidence to dream big. I want to inspire her to believe that she can achieve anything. For now, I plan to put aside my worries and continue to encourage her aspirations, knowing there will be time later to discuss the harsher realities of life. While I hope she becomes the first girl president, I secretly wish that another girl gets there first. We shouldn’t have to wait another three decades for equal representation.
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Summary
The article discusses a mother’s reflections on her daughter’s ambition to be the first female president of the United States, highlighting the challenges of explaining societal issues like sexism to children. The author emphasizes the importance of encouraging dreams while acknowledging the obstacles faced by women in leadership roles.