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This week’s dilemma: What should you do when your parents are extremely religious and disapprove of how you’re raising your own family?
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
I grew up in a devoutly religious household where attending church was a frequent occurrence, not limited to Sundays. My parents led Bible studies and engaged in daily devotionals. While this was my norm as a child, as an adult raising my own family, I now view their faith as somewhat fanatical. My husband and I identify as agnostic and have chosen not to raise our kids in the church. This has caused quite a stir with my parents, who have gone so far as to say I’m condemning my children to eternal damnation if they aren’t “saved.” They love their grandkids dearly but seem to push religious teachings at every opportunity. With Easter approaching, I’m dreading the family gathering, knowing they will inevitably criticize our lack of church attendance and preach to my kids about the holiday’s “true” meaning. Any advice?
To consider your parents’ perspective, it’s important to realize they likely mean well. Their deep faith drives their concern for your family’s spiritual health. They might feel helpless watching someone they care about stray from their beliefs.
However, your spiritual journey and how you choose to raise your children are ultimately your decisions. It’s crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your parents. Approach this discussion gently, acknowledging their love and concern while expressing that their attempts to instill their beliefs in your life are causing a rift. Emphasize that you appreciate their devotion but that it doesn’t align with your family’s values. It’s essential to communicate that their ability to accept your beliefs, even if they differ from theirs, is a valuable lesson for your children.
If this approach doesn’t yield positive results, you may need to establish clear boundaries. Let them know that while you want them in your family’s life, religious discussions are off-limits. Be firm about your beliefs and your expectation for them to respect that.
In the meantime, you can explain to your children that differing beliefs are part of life. It’s essential they don’t feel ashamed because of their grandparents’ views. Help them understand that while Grandma and Grandpa hold one perspective, it’s perfectly okay for them to feel differently.
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In summary, it’s vital to approach your parents with understanding and openness. Their intentions may be good, but it’s important to set boundaries to protect your family’s values.