Why School Attendance Awards Are Problematic

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As a parent, navigating the contradictory messages surrounding child-rearing can be overwhelming. We hear, “Prioritize your well-being!” while simultaneously being told, “You must adhere to every parenting guideline, or you’re failing!” For instance, while it’s universally accepted that sick children should stay home, many schools also enforce strict attendance policies that add to the stress of parenting.

It’s a known fact that sending a sick child to school can lead to severe consequences. Even before the pandemic, parents faced judgment if their child attended school with a runny nose or a stomach ache. We all agree that keeping germs at bay is crucial. However, the same schools that promote staying home when ill often have rigid attendance requirements.

Take the example of my friend in Texas, whose children must provide a doctor’s note after just two days of absence. It’s not uncommon for kids to catch minor illnesses that don’t warrant a doctor’s visit, yet these policies pressure parents to drag their sick children to unnecessary appointments, risking further illness and incurring additional costs.

For families with chronically ill children, these policies can be exceptionally burdensome. The focus should be on care and recovery, not on navigating the school’s attendance rules.

Moreover, there’s a growing recognition of mental health’s significance, particularly after the pandemic. Kids, just like adults, need mental health days. Yet, strict attendance policies and awards for perfect attendance send the wrong message. What are we rewarding? Is it a child’s good health, the reliability of their parents, or a stable home environment?

Attendance awards disproportionately favor those from stable backgrounds while marginalizing those who face challenges—whether due to illness, economic hardship, or family situations. It reinforces the harmful idea that taking time off, whether for physical or mental health, is somehow wrong.

Our society often glorifies overwork, instilling in children the notion that they must show up at all costs. This mindset leads to burnout and anxiety in adulthood. Instead, we should advocate for a culture that values health and well-being, encouraging schools and workplaces to promote self-care practices for both students and employees.

Instead of attendance prizes, let’s shift our focus to recognizing schools and employers that prioritize mental health and wellness. By abolishing attendance awards, we can send a clearer message to our children that their health—both mental and physical—is paramount.

For further insights on the subject of mental health and wellness, check out this excellent resource that discusses the importance of care in our lives.

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In summary, it’s crucial to rethink school attendance awards and policies that reward mere presence rather than genuine achievement or health. We need to create environments that foster well-being instead of perpetuating harmful norms.