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It’s challenging to share this image, but with the ongoing debate regarding the “irreversible damage” related to puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy (HRT), I feel compelled to discuss the struggles that trans women face when denied appropriate care as children.
From the age of 4, I understood that I was a girl. However, fear, shame, and a lack of understanding regarding gender identity kept me hidden for 33 long years. If I had seen positive representations of trans women during my childhood, I would have found the courage to come out much sooner. I spent countless nights wishing to wake up as the girl I knew I was. If only I had known about the treatment options available to me, I would have embraced them without hesitation.
Growing up in Indiana during the 1990s, I was exposed to a narrative that portrayed trans women as men pretending to be women, often depicted in negative light as either a punchline or a danger to society. This misinformation kept me in the shadows, enduring the torment of masculine puberty, which nearly cost me my life. I was hospitalized twice due to suicide attempts and cycled through various antidepressants and mood stabilizers, none of which provided relief.
The physical changes I experienced during puberty were distressing. When I hear the term “irreversible damage,” I immediately think of the alterations brought on by masculine puberty: a deepened voice, a broader chest, bulkier muscles, and the distressing growth of facial hair. Now that I am living authentically, I am undergoing the necessary treatments to feel comfortable in my own skin. The accompanying image shows the aftermath of one session of full-facial electrolysis, my sixth treatment thus far. Each session has been more painful and costly than the last, with a total expenditure of $25,000 so far—worth every penny to me.
Had I access to puberty blockers and HRT at the appropriate age, I would have avoided this pain and expense entirely. My facial features bear the marks of masculine puberty, making me a target for looks and comments from others, which exacerbates my anxiety and contributes to my CPTSD—a condition likely worsened by years of living in secrecy. The shape of my face poses real dangers as I navigate public spaces, compelling me to consider invasive surgeries costing tens of thousands of dollars for correction.
I have also committed a year to vocal therapy, yet I may still need surgery to modify my vocal cords to achieve the voice that feels true to me. The ongoing financial and emotional toll is overwhelming.
It breaks my heart to think of the trans youth today whose guardians refuse to support their access to puberty blockers and HRT at the right time. I wonder if these parents realize how profoundly their children may resent them for their lack of understanding and support. If I discovered that my parents had known about my identity yet chose to suppress it, I would struggle to forgive them.
As we face a growing number of trans kids in states where harmful laws are enacted, they will know that society has made affirming their identities illegal. I assure you, they will never forget those who contributed to this reality.
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In summary, the lack of access to puberty blockers and HRT in childhood can lead to significant emotional and physical pain for trans individuals. The urgency of affirming and supporting trans youth is paramount, as the consequences of neglect can last a lifetime.