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Even Rachel’s quip, “Ross, you are so pathetic. Why can’t your son just play with his doll?” is brushed off as mere humor rather than a critique of Ross’s insecurities about masculinity. It’s troubling that, two decades later, many parents—primarily cisgender fathers and also some cishet mothers—continue to employ tactics aimed at dissuading their sons from engaging with toys or clothing deemed “for girls.” This humor is antiquated and, frankly, never should have been funny. Discouraging your son from playing with dolls, donning nail polish, or wearing dresses is harmful. Mocking them for their choices is abusive.
Let me be clear: if you restrict your son’s choices based on antiquated gender norms, it says more about your insecurities than it does about your child. Children will naturally gravitate toward what they enjoy, regardless of your dismissive comments. The impact of your views can significantly affect their self-esteem and the risks they take concerning themselves and others.
From the moment a sonogram reveals a male fetus, societal expectations kick in. Parents often envision a life filled with blue colors and sports, with the boy expected to grow into an adventurous, tough protector. However, research indicates that boys raised with strict gender norms are more likely to exhibit harmful behaviors. Parents who restrict their sons from exploring diverse gender roles inadvertently instill feelings of shame and internalized fear. It’s selfish to deny a child’s happiness for the sake of your ego or outdated beliefs. Encouraging your son to show kindness and empathy, even through play with dolls, fosters essential life skills.
Many parents fear their son engaging with “girl” toys because they recognize societal ridicule for such behavior. This stems from a misguided belief that femininity equates to weakness. By discouraging boys from exploring these interests, we perpetuate harmful stereotypes. A boy playing with a doll isn’t weak; he’s nurturing and creative. And if your son enjoys dressing up or playing with dolls, that doesn’t dictate his future sexual orientation or gender identity.
Encourage your son to explore whatever interests him—be it dolls, tea sets, party dresses, or sparkly shoes. His preferences don’t imply anything about his identity. And if he does identify as queer or transgender, he still deserves your unconditional love and support. The narrative of rejecting children for their identities only leads to paths of depression and self-harm.
Even if your son hasn’t expressed interest in these items, providing books and toys that promote open-ended play can be beneficial. Challenge your own biases about gender roles, and consider fostering an environment where creativity and expression thrive.
Ultimately, allowing boys to embrace gentler aspects of themselves can only lead to more emotionally intelligent men. The outdated “boys will be boys” mentality must be confronted and dismantled for the sake of our children and society.
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Summary:
Encouraging your son to explore interests beyond traditional gender norms, such as playing with dolls or wearing dresses, is crucial for fostering empathy and emotional intelligence. Rejecting harmful stereotypes and allowing open expression can lead to healthier and happier individuals. Parents must recognize their biases and support their children’s choices, irrespective of societal expectations.