My Son Faces Bullying, But We Refuse to Let the Bullies Triumph

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When you cradle your precious little one, you envision a world filled with love and opportunities for them. You see them as a perfect being and anticipate the joy life will bring to their innocent spirit. No new mother ever gazes at her newborn and imagines that anyone would ever dislike them or, heaven forbid, treat them unkindly. When that reality hits, a mother’s heart shatters. I understand this all too well.

My son has been a target of bullying since he turned 10. It all started because of his intelligence. He was quick to raise his hand with the right answers and, at times, spoke a bit too much, drawing attention to himself. While teachers adored him, his peers labeled him as a nerd. What began as light teasing quickly escalated.

Teachers intervened, gathering the boys to address the issue, urging them to leave my son alone. They threatened to involve parents if the behavior continued, but it was an empty threat. These boys’ parents believed their children could do no wrong. For instance, when one of them kicked a girl in the shins, her mother was told it was her daughter’s fault for provoking him. What happened to the principle of never putting your hands on someone? Apparently, that rule vanishes when you’re raised by someone who sees no faults in you.

At the end of the school year, we relocated, and I was relieved to close that chapter. However, a year later, my son received a group FaceTime call from those same boys. Initially, one of them apologized for the past behavior, and my son appreciated it. But soon, the call turned sour as they laughed at him and hurled insults, using a nickname he despised. In a moment of frustration, he shouted, “Leave me alone!” Although I usually discourage such language, I felt the same rage.

With tears in his eyes, he asked me, “Why are they so cruel? I can’t stand them!” I had no answers. He is my child, loved by family and friends just as he is. These kids simply don’t understand that their actions are hurtful. They aren’t just bullying him; they’re inflicting pain on me too.

Fury welled up inside me, and I wanted to confront their parents directly. But my son pleaded with me not to escalate the situation, wanting to pretend it never happened. But it did happen, and both of us will remember it. The next time I encounter their mothers at the store, I’ll have to engage in polite conversation, asking about their families while biting my tongue, despite wanting to express my feelings. Unfortunately, it seems these kids lack the same moral compass.

I wish these parents could feel the anguish I do. Maybe then they would instill empathy in their children. I wonder how they would react if their child was ostracized at lunch or mocked for something beyond their control, like their height. What would they say if they heard their child sobbing in the car because of relentless teasing? I don’t truly wish those experiences upon them because no parent should endure such heartache.

A parent’s love for their child is boundless, surpassing all other forms of love. When someone harms that child, it pierces deeply. It’s heartbreaking when your child turns to you for help, and you realize you can’t fix it.

So, what can I do? I listen. I love. I think ahead. I’ll ensure my son doesn’t feel diminished by the actions of a few hurtful kids. He is intelligent, kind, and deserving of joy, friendship, and confidence. Nobody can take that away from him.

As a mother, my heart aches. Yet, I will strive to teach my children the importance of kindness, emphasizing that they should always be kind to others. You never know what someone else might be dealing with, and a simple act of kindness can make all the difference. I will encourage them to extend kindness, even when they are met with unkindness.

Throughout life, unkindness will persist; there will always be those who don’t treat them well. However, depriving someone of their happiness is unacceptable. Every individual has a light within them, and nobody should dim that light. My son will continue to shine brightly, and I promise you that.

We will not allow a handful of cruel children to triumph. He deserves so much more.

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In summary, my son faces bullying, but we are determined not to let the bullies win. Love, kindness, and support are our weapons against this adversity. We will teach our children to be compassionate and resilient, ensuring that no one dims their light.