Why Saying ‘Drink Some Water’ Can Be a Way to Express Love

happy babyartificial insemination kit for humans

I often tell my kids to “drink some water” just as frequently as I express my love for them. I’m a talkative person, and the phrase “I love you” flows easily from my lips. However, if someone were to chart how often I say “drink some water” versus “I love you,” I might be surprised to find that the former could actually outnumber the latter. I might need a glass of water myself after seeing those results.

As an introverted mom navigating life with twin teenage boys, I’ve learned to rely on water in various ways. Staying hydrated keeps me feeling healthy and functional, providing a sense of control in a world filled with uncertainties.

Water also serves as a remedy for many situations. When my sons share shocking news, I sip my water while processing my thoughts. When there’s too much emotional tension in our household of men, a shower can wash it all away. For moments of reflection, I enjoy walks by the beach, letting the sound of waves help me think while I inhale the salty air.

When I long to nurture and be acknowledged, but my husband isn’t around and my teens are holed up in their rooms, I find solace in caring for our plants, softly speaking to them as I water them. Water rejuvenates my spirit and helps me feel connected to nature and myself. It grounds me, pulling me back into my body instead of allowing my mind to drift.

Water has always been a source of healing for me. Growing up in Kansas, I relished lying in our yard, where I spent countless afternoons daydreaming. I would gaze at the sky, imagining it as an ocean with clouds resembling waves. Discovering that the plains were once an inland sea thrilled me; it felt like I was lying on ancient seabed, connected to something greater.

In this fast-paced world, water is elemental and uncomplicated; it comprises a significant part of my own body. Over the years, it’s become my go-to solution for my sons: “Feeling tired? Have you had any water today?” or “Is your throat sore? You might be dehydrated.” I believe water can alleviate just about any discomfort they experience—be it skin issues, digestion problems, anxiety, or lack of focus. I even remind them, “If you want your brain to function well for that permit test tomorrow, drink plenty of water beforehand.”

I always keep water nearby to help me stay calm. I rarely leave home without a bottle, and when my sons head out, I make sure to send them off with water, urging them to stay hydrated. While I can’t ensure their social interactions or driving skills, I can at least make sure they won’t be dehydrated.

Of course, my boys are growing up, often dismissing my offers of water and rolling their eyes at my go-to solution. They no longer share every little worry or discomfort with me; they know I’ll just scan them and hand over my drink. This leads me to question: why do I feel the need to respond to everything with a glass of water?

The reality of parenting is that it’s a constant, evolving responsibility filled with uncertainties. While I can’t guarantee their futures, I can promise my unwavering support and love. Much of what lies ahead is beyond my control, and I often feel like I’m just figuring things out as I go.

When I encourage my sons to drink water, it’s my way of saying, “I’m not sure how to handle this. Life is complicated enough for me. What you’re feeling right now may not be as serious as you think, and while I can’t fix it, I know that drinking water won’t hurt. And remember, I love you.”