From The Confessional: We Are Introverts, So Please Leave Us Alone

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When discussing your grandest aspirations, you might feel inclined to declare, “I want to travel the globe!” or “I dream of a luxurious vacation with friends!” or “I’d love to buy a mansion and throw extravagant parties.” While those may be genuine dreams for some, what if the mere thought of extensive travel and socializing makes you cringe? What if your true fantasy, even if you struck it rich overnight, would be to hibernate at home indefinitely?

For many, the ideal scenario involves not exploring the world but rather snuggling under a cozy blanket in a favored chair, engrossed in a captivating novel. It’s more appealing to order takeout than to dine at high-end restaurants, and the idea of spending an entire day in pajamas sounds blissful.

If you thrive on adventure and socializing, that’s fantastic! Feel free to send a postcard from your journeys. However, if you identify as an introverted homebody who relishes Netflix binges, good books, and comforting takeout, that’s perfectly acceptable too.

Often, when I find myself in an uncomfortable social situation, all I crave is the comfort of home—away from the shame and awkwardness.

Confessions of an Introvert

Confession #12345678: I think it’s best to remain home and keep my thoughts to myself. I believed we had an enjoyable dinner with a friend recently, but now I’ve learned something my partner and I said upset her. It was unintentional, and I can’t handle the drama anymore.

Confession #12345679: As an introvert, along with a few coworkers, I find that we often accomplish more than our extroverted colleagues (whom I genuinely appreciate) since we spend less time chatting and more time focusing on tasks.

Confession #12345680: I want to quit “peopling.” I’m exhausted from putting myself out there, trusting too easily, and facing hurt. My life feels safer at home with my child and my cat.

Confession #12345681: Honestly, sometimes being around people can be draining. They can be selfish, overly dramatic, or just plain exhausting with their constant chatter and high energy.

Isolation is something I’ve been familiar with since my child was born. Managing a colicky baby along with a toddler was chaotic, leading me to develop anxiety and a preference for staying home. Now, the pandemic has only reinforced my desire to be a hermit.

Confession #12345682: I just want to be left alone.

Confession #12345683: My partner and child are heading out for Spring Break in two weeks, while I’ll be home working. Strangely, I’m equally excited about my quiet week as they are about their trip to Disneyworld.

Confession #12345684: All I desire is to stay home, binge-watch shows, browse the internet, snack, chat on the phone, and avoid the outside world.

Confession #12345685: Some of us genuinely enjoy solitude and simply wish to be left alone. No, Nancy, I don’t want to attend your “candle party.” No, coworkers, I’m not interested in participating in the holiday grab-bag exchange. No, Mother-in-law, I don’t want to host you for dinner. I just prefer solitude—like being completely alone.

If it weren’t for my partner’s insistence on going out, I would use the curbside pickup at our local stores. I dislike shopping, but he insists because he wants to pick the items himself. If I had my way, I’d never set foot in a store again.

Confession #12345686: The longer I stay home due to lockdowns, the less I want to venture out. This pandemic is turning me into a hermit.

Confession #12345687: I’m spoiled. My partner works so I can stay home, and my kids are relatively quiet and brilliant. Even my pets are amazing. I’m done with society; I’m embracing my inner hermit.

Confession #12345688: I’m 57, with grown children, and my partner is retired. Since COVID nudged me into a hermit lifestyle, I never want to leave home again. I’m not agoraphobic or depressed; I’m perfectly content with my hobbies. Socializing just feels overrated.

And just because we’re happy hermits doesn’t mean we’re agoraphobic or that our reluctance to go out stems from trauma. It simply indicates that we genuinely enjoy our home—our kitchen, our couch, our bed, our bathroom, and the peace of it all. That’s it. Hermits gonna hermit.

This upcoming trip has actually triggered panic attacks for me. I’ve never experienced that before. I just want it to be over so I can return home and forget about it. I dislike traveling to see my mother, and I’m only doing it because my dad passed away this year. After this, I’m done.

Confession #12345689: I’m compiling excuses to avoid the holidays. “Flu” is my top contender. I really don’t want to spend time with a bunch of judgmental people.

Confession #12345690: I don’t care about Thanksgiving. I find it unnecessary and stressful. I dislike sports and parades are pointless. I’m thrilled to stay home and have a normal day with my family this year.

Confession #12345691: I only have three family members I care about. The rest can go away.

Many people love travel, large family gatherings, and hosting friends, which is wonderful for them. But for those of us who prefer solitude, a quiet holiday at home is the ultimate gift.

So, if you love someone who despises dressing up and social obligations, consider gifting them a day of peace—complete with solitude, tasty snacks, and great books. Just say “happy birthday” or “love you!” and let them enjoy their day alone. That’s truly what they desire.

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In summary, introverts often find joy in solitude and prefer to stay home rather than engage in social activities. This can lead to feelings of guilt or anxiety when faced with social obligations. Embracing this lifestyle can be liberating and fulfilling for those who thrive in their own company.