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In a recent discussion, I came across a suggestion for cisgender women to explain their menstrual cycles to their cisgender male roommates, whether they are partners or friends, to alleviate any embarrassment and minimize unnecessary questions. I disagree. This responsibility shouldn’t fall solely on those who menstruate; managing a menstrual cycle is challenging enough. All genders should have a clear understanding of menstruation, and this education should start long before someone begins dating or living with a menstruator. Parents and educators need to engage in these discussions early and frequently.
Research from YouGov and Bodyform reveals that a staggering 72% of cisgender males have never received any education about the menstrual cycle. A follow-up study by INTIMINA confirmed that only 41% of male-identifying individuals could accurately describe menstruation. Alarmingly, many of the details they believed to be true were incorrect.
Common Misconceptions About Menstruation
- 52% of cisgender men thought the menstrual cycle lasted only 1-6 days, unaware that it typically spans around 28 days.
- 36% believed menstruation wouldn’t impact them at all. (Seriously?)
- 65% were unfamiliar with menstrual cups and many could not accurately estimate the price of tampons.
- 42% didn’t think someone could conceive while on their period.
- 33% of fathers preferred that women explain menstruation to their daughters.
- 78% felt it was crucial to educate cis boys about periods and the menstrual cycle.
The conversation about menstruation will progress more smoothly when we eliminate the stigma and inappropriate jokes surrounding it. Many people feel uncomfortable discussing periods, leading to avoidance of the topic. Yes, periods can be messy, but so can enjoying a plate of BBQ chicken wings, and that doesn’t stop people from talking about it openly.
Due to this stigma, 90% of female-identifying menstruators reported feeling anxious about attending school while on their periods due to fear of teasing and shame. This is unacceptable and disheartening. We must abandon the childish “ew, cooties!” mentality and engage in mature, respectful discussions about menstruation that don’t leave those who bleed feeling dirty or overly emotional.
Furthermore, this issue is not exclusive to women. Nonbinary individuals and transgender men can also menstruate, while many women—both trans and cis—do not. The reality is that cisgender boys and all those assigned male at birth have a lot to learn.
It’s essential for everyone to grasp the science of menstruation, as understanding human biology shouldn’t be confined to binary gender roles or personal experiences. Discussing the creation of human life inherently involves the menstrual cycle, so why limit the conversation because cis men don’t menstruate?
Dr. Jamie Baker, a sexual and reproductive health expert, emphasizes the need for boys and men to be informed about the menstrual cycle, viewing it as a normal aspect of health, well-being, and fertility. She advises being straightforward and nonjudgmental when discussing menstrual health and the products used to manage it.
For anyone assigned male at birth—especially cis men—in sexual relationships with those who can conceive, understanding that partners can become pregnant during their periods is crucial for family planning and avoiding unplanned pregnancies. This knowledge is especially pertinent given the increasing number of states considering restrictions on abortion access.
Imagine a world where adults can confidently and empathetically discuss menstruation with the children who will one day experience it. It’s imperative that all identities take responsibility for the conversations surrounding menstruation, rather than relegating it solely to women.
Moreover, cisgender men and those assigned male at birth need to recognize the financial strain of menstrual products and the physical and emotional challenges that accompany menstruation. Many individuals face period poverty, struggling to afford necessary products, and some miss school or work due to the associated pain. Dr. Baker adds that it’s helpful for cisgender boys and men to be aware of PMS symptoms, such as cravings and cramps, to better support those who menstruate.
Having a male partner, friend, or colleague who understands these issues can make a significant difference. It’s time to stop being the insensitive person who exacerbates the difficulties surrounding menstruation. Let’s raise individuals who aren’t afraid of a box of tampons.
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Summary
It is essential for all genders to be educated about menstruation, rather than placing the burden solely on those who menstruate. Understanding the menstrual cycle fosters empathy, reduces stigma, and promotes informed conversations within relationships. Everyone should feel comfortable discussing periods, recognizing their impact on health and relationships.