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One of my ultimate dream home fantasies is having a private bathroom, one that’s exclusively mine. The reasons for this go beyond mere practicality; they’re deeply emotional. Bathrooms, to me, are not just for personal hygiene; they serve as a sanctuary. I can’t be the only woman who feels this way, and once we become mothers, our connection to this personal space intensifies… often transforming into our home bathroom, which becomes our only true oasis. Here’s why:
A Private Space for Tears
The bathroom has always been my go-to spot for a good cry, allowing me to have a moment and then carry on. (Think Holly Hunter in Broadcast News, but a bit toned down.) If I happened to share this moment with someone else in there, there was no shame—just a mutual understanding.
When my children were young and my mother was battling cancer, I didn’t want them to witness the full weight of my sorrow. So, I turned to the shower for my deeper sobs. Now that my kids are older, I still find solace in that shower, where I can cry without anyone asking questions or knowing what’s going on afterward.
A Place to Escape
It’s a refuge from people, conversations, and expectations. Sometimes, you just need to disconnect from all the constant demands from kids, coworkers, or partners and simply stop… like, don’t-bring-your-phone kind of stop. Even as a mom, you can still claim your bathroom time—after all, your coworkers should respect your privacy. Just proclaiming, “I’m in the bathroom!” through the closed door can grant you an extra five minutes of solace.
Of course, toddlers are a different story. A friend of mine recently shared how her preschooler barged in on her during a bathroom break.
Mom: “Can you let me have some privacy?”
Kid: “No, it’s my job to keep you safe.”
Parents, this phase will pass… eventually. Phase one is when they burst in, thinking you’re simply sitting at the kitchen table. Phase two is when they lean against the door, asking how much longer you’ll be. (And yes, you can hear their breathing.) Phase three is the teenage years, where they lurk nearby, ready to surprise you the moment you step out. At least they’ve learned to stop interrupting you, a thought that terrifies them more than it does you.
A Space for Reflection
At home, the shower is where I brainstorm creative ideas without interruptions, hold imaginary conversations, rehearse acceptance speeches, and vent about my kids, spouse, or anyone else who’s getting on my nerves. No one ever has to know.
The same applies at work, though there, all that shouting and singing has to stay in your head. No one will mind if you take a bathroom break, allowing you a distraction-free zone to think.
A Hub for Self-Care
Tired of prioritizing everyone else’s needs all day? Retreat to the bathroom for a moment to brush your hair, apply some makeup, or indulge in any other grooming ritual. It’s not merely a delay tactic while you say, “I’m in the bathroom”—it’s a chance to focus on yourself. And no one can complain about that.
Sure, this may sound a bit selfish… but it’s not. Here’s why: we need the sanctity of bathrooms because life is full of people demanding our attention. While I dislike sweeping generalizations, it’s often true that women bear a heavier load. In many families with heterosexual parents, you’ll hear “Mom!” more often than not. The same goes for many workplaces, regardless of your role. We’ve earned that bathroom time.
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