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I observe my four-year-old daughter as she stands before our full-length mirror. In a hand-me-down dress and leggings, her bare feet and tousled hair add to her charm as she twirls around. Taking hold of the tulle, she beams and softly declares, “Wow. I am so beautiful.”
In that moment, my heart skips a beat. I’m filled with pride that I haven’t caused her to question herself yet, but I’m also consumed with fear that I will. For now, life hasn’t dimmed her self-love, but I know that day will come. I find myself envious of her innocent joy in her reflection, something I struggle to embrace even after 37 years and four kids. I wonder if understanding my journey can help forge a better path for her.
Was it my height that contributed to my struggles? I was always the tallest girl in class, awkwardly positioned at the back of group photos and feeling out of place in my long, tomboyish frame. Others often described me as “big” instead of “tall,” making me feel like I was taking up too much space.
It wasn’t until I joined competitive basketball that I began to appreciate my height. Blocking shots and grabbing rebounds gave me a sense of strength and confidence. In college, I met taller guys and realized I could feel feminine, dispelling the notion that I was just “big.” I often think my body image issues stem from adult experiences with social media and Hollywood’s unrealistic standards. However, as I reflect, I recognize that my struggles began much earlier.
Perhaps it was high school boys who shaped my self-perception. I remember one who joked about watching a movie on my forehead, and another suggesting I could only be attractive with a bag over my head (like that would even work, seriously?). Juvenile comments like these burrowed deep into my self-esteem.
Then there were my friends. I recall a moment in the high school cafeteria when a girl gasped as I enjoyed a cherry-red Lindt chocolate bar. She snatched it from me and loudly recited its caloric content for everyone to hear. I went on my first diet shortly after. Later in college, I witnessed two friends develop eating disorders, meticulously counting Cracklin’ Oat Bran pieces for lunch. Their harsh self-judgment jeopardized my own self-love.
And what about the women in my life? My family and friends made me feel like a superhero, supporting me through every awkward phase without criticism of my appearance. Yet, they didn’t extend that same kindness to themselves. I remember the diets, the obsessive workouts, and the negative comments they made about their own bodies. It’s clear that their dissatisfaction influenced my self-image, and I wish we could have seen ourselves through each other’s eyes.
How can I combat such deeply ingrained issues? How do I protect my daughters from this beast of self-doubt?
I’ve decided to lead with honesty. I’ll frequently express how perfect I think they are while downplaying the significance of physical appearance. I’ll monitor their social media exposure and have open conversations about the reality behind the curated images they see. I’ll encourage them to focus on activities that bring them joy—like dominating their local rival’s all-star in a Tuesday night game. And I’ll stand ready to defend them against any high school boy who dares to undermine their worth.
I’m committed to addressing my own issues, actively seeking joy in my reflection and sharing those moments with them, knowing they’re always listening. However, I won’t pretend to be completely happy and self-accepting all the time; that would set unrealistic expectations. I’ll share my struggles and thoughts on being a woman today. Together, perhaps we can carve out a journey that’s kinder and more forgiving—though I know it won’t be easy.
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