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Twelve years ago, Mother’s Day became my breaking point. I woke up filled with dread. My then-partner had invited his mother over, and I felt compelled to invite mine, too. The day turned into a relentless whirlwind of chaos.
With toddlers buzzing around, eager to see their grandmothers, I was stuck in the kitchen preparing food for seven people while their dad attempted to manage the kids. I barely had a moment to sit down, and when I finally did, I hardly got to eat because the kids and my guests were constantly needing something. Afterward, I was left to clean up the disaster that had unfolded on what should have been my day. I was furious!
Neither my mother nor my mother-in-law noticed my stress. My ex assured me he would handle the cleanup later, but I knew that was unlikely, and I would be left with the mess the next day. I was filled with resentment and realized I needed a day where I didn’t have to cater to anyone else’s needs.
I confronted my then-husband, insisting that going forward, I wanted to spend Mother’s Day solely with him and our kids. No extra visitors. I desired a nice meal out and a relaxed evening at home. His response? “But it’s Mother’s Day; my mom should come over.” I firmly told him no. She had her time to relax and be celebrated when her children were young. Now, it was my turn, as I was the one raising our young kids. If he wanted to, he could take the kids to his mom’s house for a few hours so I could unwind. That never happened, and his mom wasn’t thrilled about the idea either.
For years, I had celebrated my own mother on this day, but after we became mothers ourselves, it became harder to do so. I sensed my mom’s disappointment as we juggled our new responsibilities. However, once I set the boundaries, things changed. We started getting dressed up, taking family photos, and dining out—no visitors were allowed. I’m so grateful I established this new norm, as I’ve never regretted it.
After my divorce, I now enjoy lunch with my mom the week before and have a sushi date with my kids on Mother’s Day. And it’s wonderful!
Moms with young children are the ones truly in the trenches. We deserve a day that is fully ours. Our mothers and mothers-in-law may have raised kids, but they aren’t the ones running around taking kids to practices, preparing meals, or doing the hard work we do now. It’s our time to unwind, and if that means skipping plans with our moms and MILs, so be it.
Of course, some moms may look forward to hosting their mothers on this day, perhaps feeling supported and not overwhelmed. That’s great! But many of us don’t share that experience. Everyone deserves the joy I feel when I wake up on Mother’s Day now. Chase it!
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