Navigating the Realities of Being a Girl Mom

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Updated: December 27, 2015
Originally Published: July 4, 2010

As a mother of two young daughters, I find myself firmly in the realm of “girl mom.” Unless fate intervenes, this is my title for the foreseeable future. I often hear from “boy moms”—those who are the only females in their households and are comfortable with that dynamic. These moms frequently tell me how fortunate I am to have two sweet little girls, brimming with adorable qualities. Yet, they also express sympathy for the inevitable drama I will face as they reach their teenage years. At times, this condescension can be grating, and one thing I truly dislike is condescension among fellow moms.

Let me clarify some misconceptions about being a girl mom.

1. Energy Levels: Many “boy moms” claim that their boys are so energetic, leaving them exhausted. They often believe I have it easy with my girls. The reality is that my younger daughter is a whirlwind—constantly running, climbing, and exploring. She’s adept at escaping from any restraint and often tackles her older sister. I can assure you that lacking a Y chromosome does not slow her down one bit.
2. Messiness: Some moms claim boys are inherently messy, suggesting I’m lucky to have daughters. In truth, my children have engaged in some rather unsanitary activities, including finger painting with their own poop. My youngest often spends time with her hand in her diaper. Cleanliness is not exclusive to boys.
3. Fashion Choices: There’s a notion that girl clothes are the epitome of cuteness, and that little girls always look adorable, even in mismatched outfits. However, my daughters often find themselves stuck in short-sleeve holiday dresses during the winter months. There are challenges with little girls’ clothing choices as well.
4. Play Preferences: “Boy moms” mention the prevalence of toy cars and Hot Wheels tracks in their homes, suggesting I’m fortunate to avoid that chaos. The truth is, my daughters are just as fascinated with cars and trains. While I might not deal with the mess of tracks, we certainly have our fair share of doll clothes—some of which my youngest struggles to manage.
5. Teenage Years: I often hear that I should brace myself for the challenges of raising teenage daughters while “boy moms” feel lucky to have sons. However, I have a different perspective. While I may encounter some drama, I doubt my daughters will engage in reckless behavior like joyriding or vandalism.

When parenting becomes overwhelming, it’s easy to assume that other families have it easier or more organized. Just because my daughters wear ribbons and play dress-up doesn’t mean I don’t grapple with the same messiness and chaos that all parents face. Each child brings their own set of challenges, and the transition to teenage years will bring surprises—no matter the gender.

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In conclusion, whether you’re a boy mom or a girl mom, each journey is filled with its unique surprises and challenges. Embracing the chaos and celebrating the moments—both good and bad—is what makes parenting worthwhile.