Navigating Relationships: A Guide for Our Future Daughter

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As our daughter, whom we’ll affectionately call Lila, grows up, she will undoubtedly ask about how her father, Ben, and I first crossed paths. This is our own version of a classic love story filled with fireworks, champagne, and the like. While we have some time before that conversation arises, it’s wise for us to prepare a more suitable narrative than the actual truth.

Once Lila learns the real story, we may lose our credibility when it comes to offering advice about relationships, especially concerning men and romantic entanglements. Here are a few key points we may want to steer clear of when counseling her:

1. Avoid Early Marriage: Lila, please don’t look to us as role models for marrying young. While we tied the knot at 21 and 24, the context was entirely different. Back in the 90s, the internet wasn’t in every home, digital photography was limited, and Mel Gibson was just a regular actor. Young marriages were common then, but times have evolved.
2. Beware of Study-Abroad Romance: If you ever find yourself studying abroad, especially in a romantic city like Paris, be cautious about diving into a relationship with someone you meet during an exuberant event, such as a festival. Such romances often have a short lifespan; we were just fortunate.
3. Get to Know Your Partner: It’s essential to know your partner well before making any major commitments. Any proposal after merely two weeks of dating is a red flag. Ideally, you should spend more than four months with someone before considering marriage—this is merely a guideline, of course.
4. Meet the Family First: Before you make any major life decisions, ensure you meet your partner’s family. If your future mother-in-law starts with, “Are you sure you want to get married?” it might be a sign to reflect on your decision. In that case, respond positively while keeping an open mind.
5. Wedding Dress Considerations: Avoid purchasing your wedding dress from a catalogue. Trust us on this one; the experience is different in person.
6. Choosing the Right Date: Lastly, when selecting your wedding date, make sure it falls on a weekend. Having your wedding on a Tuesday could lead to many unhappy guests who need to work the following day.

This brief list serves as a start to what we would advise against. There is certainly much more to explore, but that can wait until she’s considerably older.

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In summary, while we may have our own unique love story, the lessons we hope to impart to Lila are based on the wisdom we’ve gained over the years.