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Embracing Pregnancy: The End of Marriage Mystique
In my adult life, my partner and I have spent nearly 13 years together, with 8 of those years being married. Throughout our time together, I maintained a strong boundary regarding personal bodily functions. I have never urinated in front of him and have taken extreme measures to avoid passing gas in his presence. The idea of performing grooming rituals for my intimate areas while he is around? Absolutely not. I have always believed in preserving a certain allure and mystique in our relationship, wanting to be perceived as a captivating, beautiful goddess—one who has no need for ordinary bodily functions.
However, everything changed when I became pregnant. While I haven’t crossed the threshold of peeing in front of him, the reality of “morning” sickness hit at the most inconvenient times, catching me off guard while I was brushing my teeth at night. My husband, aware that his actions had triggered my nausea, stepped into the role of caretaker, holding my hair back and rubbing my back as I battled waves of discomfort. Not to mention, he took on the task of cleaning the toilet afterward, understanding the overwhelming sensitivity pregnant women have to certain odors.
Unfortunately, the façade I had carefully constructed began to crumble. My skin broke out with large, cystic blemishes reminiscent of those featured in the ProActiv advertisements, and under the guidance of my OB, my husband found himself applying topical treatments to my inflamed back. The image of the goddess he once admired now included moments of vomiting at his feet and dealing with my skin’s imperfections.
The challenges of pregnancy don’t stop there. The struggle with bowel movements is particularly daunting; while relief can feel euphoric, the discomfort and effort of trying to go during pregnancy seems to be a precursor to labor. With the only bathroom in our home located next to our bedroom, my husband often hears my anguished cries, leaving him to wonder what on earth is happening behind that closed door.
Accompanying me to OB appointments has also stripped away any remaining mystery. He has witnessed intimate examinations and even vaginal ultrasounds, where the technician asked if I wanted to insert the probe myself. The romantic allure I once embodied has vanished.
As I grapple with the physical realities of pregnancy, I am also preparing for the day when my husband will be present during childbirth. Just as pregnancy challenges are conditioning me for labor, these experiences are helping me accept the inevitable intimacy that will come with giving birth.
Despite the loss of my once-glamorous persona, my husband continues to affirm my beauty. Each night, after applying medication to my back, he tenderly places his hand on my growing belly, kisses me, and reassures me that I have never looked more beautiful to him. I marvel at his perception, wondering what influences his view of me—could it be a secret elixir I hope to acquire for the labor ahead?
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Summary
This article discusses the transition from maintaining personal mystique in a marriage to confronting the realities of pregnancy. The author reflects on the physical changes and challenges that come with pregnancy, highlighting the shift in perception between partners. Ultimately, she emphasizes the importance of support and love during this transformative time.