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Why Isn’t There a Mute Button for Parenting?
Parenting is an unforgettable journey, but it often comes with overwhelming sensory experiences. It all begins with intense discomfort, sleepless nights, and an endless cycle of exhaustion. Your taste buds take a backseat as you hastily consume cold meals after putting the kids to bed. Once serene living spaces are transformed into chaotic playgrounds filled with toys, challenging any aesthetic sensibilities you once cherished. Your sense of smell becomes hyper-aware, alerting you to potential messes that require immediate action. The tactile experiences can be just as shocking; for instance, the first time my son had an accident in the bathtub, I found myself asking my partner, “Was it at least one sizable piece?” to which he grimly replied, “Oh, I believe all the textures were represented.”
However, the most daunting aspect of parenting may be the relentless noise. Take, for example, our neighborhood park, which features a circular sandbox. My toddler enjoys flipping a pail upside down and dragging it along the top of the concrete wall. This grating sound is akin to nails on a chalkboard, and I find myself instinctively covering my ears. This disruptive activity occurs approximately every 14 seconds, making it nearly impossible to engage in meaningful conversation with another adult nearby. Given the choice, I’d prefer to endure the sound of a wood chipper over that incessant scraping.
When discussing the challenges of parenting, we often focus on issues like inadequate family leave, sleep deprivation, feeding routines, and discipline. While these concerns hold merit, the persistent intrusion of noise often goes unacknowledged. This begins with the nighttime cries of infants and extends to the cacophony of plastic musical instruments gifted by well-meaning relatives. (A simple monetary gift would be far more appreciated.)
Currently, I am grappling with a new noise issue: kitchen chairs. My 2-year-old’s favorite pastime is to “create a train” by pushing the chairs away from the table, generating an ear-splitting screeching sound that resembles a malfunctioning trumpet. Despite trying felt pads on the chair legs, they fail to stick on our aged floor, resulting in at least one chair making a raucous noise. I find myself dropping utensils and food as my son startles me by moving a chair, causing me to reflexively cover my ears and exclaim, “That is too loud!”
I often find myself repeating, “That is too loud,” multiple times a day, leaving me feeling guilty. My two young boys need to express themselves through play and noise. They often engage in exuberant games, such as pretending to be hyperactive squirrels or amusing each other with fork sounds against their plates.
I suspect I have a heightened sensitivity to sound, perhaps even hyperacusis, a condition characterized by an intolerance to certain frequencies. This sensitivity leads me to carry earplugs everywhere, particularly in public spaces or during events. Unfortunately, I dislike this aspect of myself. I yearn for a quieter world and wish my children wouldn’t create new soundscapes that could rival a rock concert. Most importantly, I wish I could manage my sensitivity better; I don’t want my children to feel they must tiptoe around, stifling their joy during dinner.
Yet, this is our reality. Each family member has unique traits to accommodate, whether it be excessive noise or unexpected messes. Perhaps this sensitivity will yield future benefits, such as my kids pursuing careers that involve silence, like librarianship.
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In summary, parenting is filled with sensory challenges, particularly the ongoing noise that can be overwhelming. While we focus on various aspects of child-rearing, we must also acknowledge the impact of sound on our daily lives.