Adoption is a profound journey that brings families together, and it often coincides with significant themes of gratitude and connection. As we observe National Adoption Month, it’s essential to reflect on the experiences that accompany this journey. Personally, I have two adopted children, and adoption was a familiar concept in my family, with multiple relatives also having been adopted. However, as an adoptive parent, I frequently encounter a range of intrusive questions about my children’s backgrounds and our decision to adopt. While I typically respond with a polite smile and a diversionary comment, I sometimes wish I could express my thoughts more candidly.
Common Adoption Inquiries and Hypothetical Responses
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“Can’t you have any children of your own?”
Actually, my reproductive health challenges mean that I can’t conceive naturally. After battling endometriosis, certain reproductive organs were removed, making pregnancy impossible. Would you like to discuss more about my medical history? -
“What happened to their real mom?”
Well, since they woke me up at 5 AM this morning asking for breakfast, I think it’s safe to say that I’m their “real” mom in the day-to-day sense. Who else would be fielding those early morning requests? -
“How much did they cost?”
Interestingly, they were free! However, the emotional investment and the commitment to parenting are priceless. By the way, how much did you spend on that luxury vehicle parked outside? -
“Do you know Angelina Jolie?”
Absolutely! Just yesterday, we were discussing our plans for a girls’ night with other famous adoptive parents while enjoying some boxed wine. It’s a fun circle to be part of! -
“Why did you adopt from China instead of your own country?”
I adopted from my own species! But speaking of origins, let’s talk about your imported shoes and foreign car choices, shall we? -
“Now that you’ve adopted, do you think you’ll get pregnant?”
Oh, are we still discussing my reproductive system? See my earlier comment on that topic. -
“Are you planning to tell them they’re adopted?”
It’s a conversation we’ll have when it feels appropriate. After all, children are perceptive; they might notice that two Caucasian parents don’t typically produce Asian children. Perhaps around their teenage years would be a good time. -
“You’re a saint for giving those poor children a good home.”
Absolutely! I take pride in my role as their parent. But now, if you’ll excuse me, my children are calling!
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In summary, adoption is a beautiful journey that comes with its own set of challenges, particularly when faced with well-meaning yet intrusive questions. By sharing our stories and educating others, we can foster a greater understanding and appreciation for the diverse paths to parenthood.