Are You Normal?

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From the moment we take our first breath, we’re scrutinized and measured against some elusive standard of “normal.” We’re plotted on growth charts and evaluated by doctors, nurses, and sometimes even family. Those numbers become a part of our identity, leading us to believe that our worth is tied to where we stand on these charts. Yet, most of us find ourselves stuck in the space between who we truly are and who we think we should be, often wasting precious time trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t represent us.

The desire to be “normal” isn’t even the main issue; it’s more about how others perceive us. Family members, healthcare professionals, and society at large often have their own expectations, and when you don’t align with those, it can feel like there’s something wrong with you—even if there’s nothing broken to begin with. “You’re right here,” a doctor might say, pointing to a lonely dot on a chart, “but ideally, you should be up here.”

We internalize these evaluations and often let them dictate our self-worth. Yes, we are given labels and categories, but those do not define us. We fall into the trap of measuring ourselves against these external standards, raising our children in the same way, and perpetuating a cycle that relies on an imaginary normal. It’s a fiction we believe in because we fear there’s a right way to exist—and deep down, we worry we aren’t living it.

We’re all individuals with experiences that are as unique to us as our fingerprints, yet we often think that everyone else has it figured out better than we do. This leads to endless comparisons, where we gauge our lives against those of others, constantly questioning if we’re meeting some unspoken standard of normality. Unfortunately, this can make us feel more isolated, as we’re afraid to open up about our struggles since we think they’re uniquely ours.

Pretending to be someone we’re not only feeds into the very notion of normality that undermines the rich diversity of human experience. There is no universal blueprint for being human; our individuality is what makes us unique. So, let’s embrace our differences—after all, it’s our quirks that define what it truly means to be normal.

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In summary, we are all beautifully unique, and our differences are what make us human. Forget the pressure to conform to someone else’s idea of “normal” and embrace who you really are.