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Why Self-Criticism Doesn’t Work as Motivation
Hey there! I’ve been chatting with friends about life lessons that would have made our 20s and 30s a lot smoother. One thought that stuck out was from a friend named Jamie, a 26-year-old writer living in San Francisco. She shared a piece of wisdom that really resonates: learning to be kinder to ourselves.
When you’re just starting out in your career, it’s easy to pile on the pressure to not just succeed, but to absolutely shine. Jamie mentioned how hard she is on herself—like, taking a compliment feels like a major challenge! She pointed out that we should treat ourselves with the same compassion we offer our friends. Seriously, when have you ever talked to a friend the way you talk to yourself sometimes? It’s wild!
Life gets way easier when you stop making those self-deprecating jokes, comparing yourself to other women who seem smarter, prettier, or just plain better. Jamie’s figured out that self-criticism isn’t a good motivator at all. It just sends you spiraling into anxiety, making it hard to see your true potential. A minor blunder can feel like the end of the world, especially when you’re fresh out of college and worried that every little mistake is going to ruin everything.
Jamie recalls a time when she was so focused on avoiding mistakes that she forgot to enjoy the learning process, which includes failing sometimes. Once she realized that lightening up on herself actually led to better results and more happiness, things changed for the better. It’s such a simple yet profound shift!
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So, remember: being kind to yourself can make a huge difference, not just in your career but in your overall happiness!