7 Ways My Miscarriage Made Me a Better Mom

Two months after hitting the big 4-0, my partner and I decided to start our family. I was shocked when, just 15 days later, I found out I was pregnant. “How did that happen so fast?” I exclaimed, feeling unprepared. I thought we’d have more time to adjust to the idea. Honestly, I wasn’t entirely convinced I was ready for mom life yet. But hey, cheers to my 40-year-old uterus for kicking into gear!

Things took a turn one day while rug shopping at a store. I felt an unusual tug in my stomach. The next morning, while going about my routine, I noticed something wasn’t right. After a long day of waiting and an ultrasound, the doctor confirmed the news I dreaded: “The fetus was likely not viable.”

Just two months later, I found out I was pregnant again. While I wouldn’t wish the heartache of miscarriage on anyone, the experience gifted me with lessons that have made me a better mom.

1. Relax a Little

You know how carefree people avoid injury? Well, I tried that approach with my second pregnancy. The first time around, I was a bundle of nerves, reading every book and obsessing over every detail. But this time? I celebrated my pregnancy with brie and copious amounts of cookie dough (I know, not exactly the healthiest choice). Instead of stressing about every little thing, I focused on enjoying the experience. And you know what? It was incredible.

2. Material Things Aren’t Everything

My husband and I invested in a gorgeous leather sofa, complete with fancy throw pillows. Fast forward to today, and that couch has seen better days—spills, stains, and a coffee table that’s morphed into a play area for trains. Honestly, no one is coming to inspect my living room anytime soon.

3. Embrace the “Yes”

Sometimes I just want a quiet evening with a glass of wine, but instead, I’m wrestling with my toddler while he insists on climbing on me. I’ve learned to say “yes” more often, whether it’s indulging in a silly game or just being present in those moments. One day, he won’t want to cuddle or play, so for now, I say “yes” to all of it.

4. I Chose the Right Partner

After my miscarriage, my husband struggled to express his grief. At one point, he dramatically complained of a “stomach ache,” which was really his guilt manifesting. But it was a bonding moment for us. We learned to communicate and support each other through the tough times, which only strengthened our relationship.

5. My Body Is Resilient

I went through a phase of questioning everything about my body and what went wrong. But then I realized that sometimes, things just happen. Miscarriage is often a biological issue, and I learned to trust my body’s capabilities. It wasn’t my fault, and I needed to give myself grace.

6. I Found My Community

Opening up about my miscarriage led me to a network of moms who had similar experiences. Sharing stories not only brought us closer but also built my confidence as a mother. I discovered I wasn’t alone in this journey, and we supported each other through the ups and downs. If you’re interested in connecting with others, check out this wonderful resource for pregnancy tips Rmany.com.

7. Priorities Shift

Sure, there are chores to do and bills to pay, but I’ve learned that moments with my child take precedence. Whether it’s dancing to Elmo or reading a favorite book for the umpteenth time, I’ve come to realize that those little moments are what truly matter. I’m fully committed to this mom life, and it’s worth every second.

In summary, while my journey through miscarriage was painful, it shaped me into a more mindful and appreciative mom. The lessons learned have made me embrace motherhood with all its chaos and joys. For more insights on home insemination, check out this post about fertility boosters for men and how to enhance your chances of conception with intracervical insemination.